Post # 1
I am conflicted over whether I will get my mom and FMIL corsages. Seems a little old fashioned. We have no living grandmothers so that is not an issue. What you you doing? Are you getting them corsages? Is it OK to buy the dads boutinieres?
Post # 3
We did corsages for our moms and grandmas, and boutonierres for our dads (no living grandfathers)
Post # 4
Not sure on this, I’ve been thinking about it myself. We only have moms and I don’t even know if my own is coming. FMIL is sort of old fashioned and I know she would really appreciate the gesture, so probably will do it.
Post # 5
I hadn’t planned on getting the ladies corsages, but I talked to my mom about it and it turned out she had very strong feelings about both moms getting one, so I said fine 🙂
And yes, the dads will have bouts. His dad is the best man so of course he will have one, but my dad and grandpa will have matching ones as well.
Post # 6
I feel that our parents are a really important part of the wedding party and so I’m getting both my mum and FMIL corsages, and boutonnieres for both our dads too. I asked the mums if they preferred wrist corsages or pinned ones and they both chose pinned corsages. It’s an old tradition, but I like it 🙂
Post # 7
@loving_life: my Mom doesn’t seem to have an opinion on this and I haven’t asked his Mom yet but now I see the poll results I’m thinking maybe I better ask…
Post # 8
I didn’t vote because I am undecided. We are definitely doing bouts for GMs and flowers for myself and my BMs. I had planned on doing corsages for our 2 grandmothers and moms and bouts for 2 grandfathers and my dad. (FIs dad is a GM, so he’ll have one no matter what). We are kinda tight with our wedding budget in the final stretch and I am trying to find some minor ways of cutting things out. This seems like one I wouldn’t mind cutting out; we aren’t having a super traditonal wedding and everyone has been flexible with that so far, so I think I may just nix them.
Post # 9
I’m doing my own flowers and corsages are a pain to make. I’m giving my mom and FMIL small nosegay bouquets instead.
Post # 10
Yes i Think it’s imprtant to include the family
Post # 11
We got them corsages that come attached to some kind of fancy pearl-looking bracelet. All of our siblings and their wives are reading at our ceremony, so we got them corsages as well. I was happy to do it… but it got expensive quick! $30 each adds up. 🙂
Post # 12
Ugh. No offense to anyone but I am not a fan. And yet, I’m buying 6 for my wedding. It’s not that I hate the way they look, I just think everyone secretly doesn’t want to wear one – they are really annoying in my opinion and just kind of… there. My Mom didn’t want one, but she didn’t want to make a big deal out of it so she told me to ask FMIL and she would fall in line. I’m 90% sure that FMIL only said yes to go with the flow and that FSIL did the same. So now I am buying them for: MOB, FMIL, FSIL, FI’s grandma and his two great aunts. At $40 a pop. I know it’s not a huge deal, and I like his family a lot so I don’t mind, but that could be half the cost of the ceremony video I’m likely forgoing. /rant
Post # 13
@dressme3: we are! I figured they are just as much part of the wedding party as everyone else, we wanted them to “stand out” as well! I’ll be doing a boutonniere though
Post # 14
I’d suggest asking them what they’d like. We are getting boutonnieres for our dads, but our moms will be carrying nosegays (small bouquets) as they are escorted down the aisle. (And we’ll be repurposing them to decorate our sweetheart table at the reception together with my bouquet.) We discussed it with the moms beforehand, and they didn’t want to pin corsages on their dresses or wear them on their wrists. Plus, they thought it would be nice to hold something as they walk down the aisle.
Post # 15
we left it up to the moms. both of them said they did not want one. (Honestly, I was glad. I’ve never liked having to wear one myself and I think it usually interferes with one’s outfit, but that’s just my personal opinion). problem solved. why not just ask? we ended up saving the money for something everyone felt more strongly about.
Post # 16
@houstonwhodat: Same here. : Our families are not included in the ceremony at all (no “seating of the mothers” or any of that), so I don’t see the point. Everyone who will be there knows who the parents are, though I’d much rather just not include my mother in anything (I’m hoping she RSVPs no, tbh). If we get flowers (undecided, since it’s $400), we’ll have leftovers and they’ll probably end up with them, but my mother is going to show up in tennis shoes, black pants, and some ugly shirt anyway, so that’ll look great. /eyeroll