Post # 1
Both my FI and I have to get annulments before we can get married in the Catholic Church. Both are the shorter annulments, aka “lack of form”. They take about a month.
I know it’s different per diocese, but I was wondering if anyone has had to go through this and how much it cost? I think we may have to cough up $400 each through our diocese from what I can tell from googling. That’s separate from the cost of getting married at the church ($250) and the pre-marriage counseling weekend ($250 plus cost of lodging and gas). So we may be looking at more than $1300 to get married in the church alone.
I really hope this isn’t the case. Money is really tight right now and the $800 for annulments is an expense we had not counted on. Does anyone know anything about this?
Post # 3
It costs around 400-600 per annullment (for the canon lawyers’ time etc.), but the diocese generally subsidizes that cost, but different dioceses subsidize different amounts. So it really depends on your doicese. Email your priest. He’s the only one that can give you specifics.
Post # 4
@AdriannaJean: We’re meeting with the priest tomorrow for the first time since getting engaged. We’ll find out everything tomorrow. From what I can tell from the diocese’s website, it can be paid in installments.
Still, this irritates me. I know the church has their laws and procedures for a reason, but it’s hard not to feel like they’re turning divorced people away from getting married in the church by making it so difficult and expensive.
Just ranting in general today. I’m totally worried that we won’t be able to get a date that works for us at the church, too. I suppose I should put all these thoughts on hold until tomorrow.
Post # 5
if it’s the short form here/ it’s $25. the long form is between 25-500 depending on how invovled it gets
Post # 6
My friend had to have the the longer version, and the parish she was in originally had given her a pretty high dollar amount (not sure what it was, sorry) and she kept putting it off because they wanted it all in one lump sum to begin the process, and she didn’t have it. THEN she met her now husband. And they wanted to get married. And, in visiting churches in the area, they joined a different parish together. THIS parish would front the money so you could go ahead and get the process started, and let you pay what you could along the way– if you could pay it all back that’s great! If not, that’s fine- they would rather that people who genuinely wanted to be a part of the Church have that opportunity. And so they got started. She chose to have a ceremony outside of the Church with a convalidation after because of her age, wanting to start a family, etc. and her annulment came through last fall, around the time of their first anniversary. For the long version (the only one I’m familiar with) it’s a long wait. BUT back to the original topic- if the amount is high, see if you can pay over time- especially if you are a member of that parish and will continue attending after your wedding, etc. Best of luck!
Post # 7
I would recommend talking to a priest or even the diocese. If this is really truly a financial hardship, they should be able to lower it.
Post # 8
Ugh, our priest is sick. He rescheduled our meeting for Dec. 20th. Of course I feel bad he’s sick but I just want to get this going already! Hope it’s not too serious.
Post # 9
what was the resolution of this? if you both only had to do Lack ofForm – should be $25