Post # 1
UGGGHHHHH!!! I am so frustrated!! sorry this is long but encouragement would be much appreciated!!
this weekend i was a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my childhood best friend’s wedding. my SO went as my date and i dont think he had any idea what he was walking into! i am very close with my bff’s very large family since we practically grew up at each other’s houses. my brother and sister in law and several mutual friends of me and my bff were there as well…
every single one of them made about 5.75 marriage related comments to my SO through out the night. this in itself is fine as my SO is pretty easy going and we have been pretty open about our plans to marry each other …
BUT everyone kept pushing for details about when he might propose and asking if it was going to happen on our trip to ireland next month. to be honest, i am pretty sure that is when it will happen, or at least when it was going to happen until everyone started badgering him. its a big trip, its my birthday and its our anniversary, so the odds were good. but i know that its really important to him that i be somewhat surprised by how he proposes. with 5000 people constantly asking and bringing it up RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME there is no way he could think i am not expecting it now!
i will be on that waiting list forever 🙁
Post # 3
I’m sorry! That must have been so stressful for you. And if you are anything like me, probably hurtful as well, like other people are questioning his commitment level right in front of you. Weddings while waiting can be tough.
I can relate to the frustration that others’ comments can cause. A few weeks back a mutual friend asked my boyfriend right in front of me if/when we’re getting married. My boyfriend was clearly shocked by the question and said he wasn’t planning anything. Of course I was stunned and really upset because that is not the impression he had given me in previous talks. He realized I was upset right away and as soon as our friend left he apologized explained that he didn’t mean it and was caught off guard by the question because he wants it to be a surprise. Hang in there!
Post # 4
We use to get this all the time!!! Once I talked to friends and family and asked them to lay off….. few months later…. he proposed!!!!!
Post # 5
@RoyalLime: yeah we are going to a family party next weekend and i have a feeling its going to be a bit like throwing a bleeding man into a tank of sharks… i am going to have to do a major intervention before then 🙁
Post # 6
I have to say I was totally in your position! Me and Fiance were together 4 1/2 yrs before he finally proposed (or agreed after much nagging!) and from a year into our relationship people were relentless in asking when we were getting married- it was everywhere we went, all the time! Then our best friends got together and got married, which made it all the worse! Only after these friends were married and we felt people weren’t so relentless in their questions about us getting married, that Fiance decided we should get engaged! And he is totally the type of person who won’t do something if evryone is on his back about it, or if he thinks it looks like he’s doing it because of everyone going on about it. Stupid people! I think it’d happen at least a year earlier if it weren’t for rude, nosey people- I feel your pain, but hang in there!