Post # 1
Not the marriage..but the wedding?
We are planning this wedding and spending a small fortune on it, it SUCKS!
As I was printing our invitations today, you know..save where you can, it just hit me that we are having a party, and a wedding for OTHER people, we just want to get married!
But the thing is…it’s in about 5 weeks, I know, invitations are late, but really, I just want to get married, have an awesome dinner with family and friends and be DONE! Could we still pull the plug on this little show or would it be a total no-no??
Post # 3
If you pull the plug this close, you’re most likely still going to be responsible for all the contracts you signed… At the very least, you will lose every deposit you put down…
I don’t think it’s worth it to cancel the wedding. This is something that should have been thought about long before now. Sorry!
Post # 4
@Dutchbee: You can do whatever you want! Simple as that.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Dutchbee: You can absolutely cancel everything at this point, especially if the invitations haven’t gone out yet. You would have issues with the deposits but if you’re okay with that, then cancel it. I would plan to send out marriage announcements after your itimate wedding so people know that you still got married, you just cancelled the big wedding.
Post # 6
You can do what you want, but you might not be able to get your money back.
Post # 7
You can, but should you? Definitely weigh your options, consider how much money you’ve spent and how much more you’ll have to spend based on your contracts. Is it worth it to lose all that money when you’ve already come so far? I totally understand how you’re feeling though. One day. For SO MUCH MONEY. It’s insane!!!
Post # 8
You CAN, but sit down with all your contracts and figure out what it will cost you vs. what you’ll still spend on what you want to do. At 30 days out I think I was comitted to close to 90% of the cost. Some things only 50%, but not many. Obvs the bar tab, limo, hair/makeup and other “day of” costs I could have avoided, but not the majority of it.
Post # 9
I will say that I felt the same way you did before the wedding… but during and after the wedding I loved it, and don’t regret one bit that we did. It was amazing. So if you can’t cancel, I do hope you enjoy your wedding as much as I enjoyed mine.
Post # 10
We that up side is that we don’t pay until after the event, so we won’t lose a deposit, that’s a big plus….
@abbie017: We did think about it, long and hard but you know how people can just talk you in to shit you had no intention of doing, well, we’re doing it anyway!
I don’t know what to do…it’s a struggle between what is expected and what you would like..and the price of everything wedding is just out of control!
Post # 11
What are the cancelation causes in your contracts? You may still have to pay if you cancel now.
Post # 12
Well you have probably spent the money now so there is not much point in cancelling. If you really want to get married then you might as well go through it as it would mean getting married in 5 weeks.
Post # 13
@BridalBeckyBee: Just go through it as it is so close now and all the money spent would have been for nothing and you would be starting from scratch again. You may even enjoy it!
Post # 14
if you don’t lose money, cancel now! do whatever you want!
Post # 15
Do you have any guests who are flying in? Will they have to pay to cancel their flights?
Post # 16
Thank you for all the reply’s
I think things work a little different here in Holland, we don’t really make any payments like you do, it’s more like you party and pay after. At least, that’s what we have with the venue en even with our local liqour store, we get all the drinks on the day off and the next day we bring back what it un-used and we pay for it then and there!
We are going through with it but we did downsize is quit a bit! We wanted an Italian style party, lots of food, drinks, some music but not really a full on dance party, just a fun night with family, friends and a lot of kids! And I’m making sure I get what I want! I did not want the dance the night away kind of thing, I didn’t want a DJ and full uplighting and what not.
So there you have it….I know people will be disappointed but really at this point I dont care! We will have a great time, and if people are going to be upset about having snacks on a paper plate and not fancy china with a silver fork…they can suck it!