Post # 1
My MOH’s wedding was this past weekend and my mom has no tact when it comes to what she asks others. I heard from my FI that she pretty much hovered over my friend’s parents and asked them detailed questions about how much things cost/how much beer & wine they used.
I am sooo embarrassed and this is not a new thing for her. How can I get her to STOP!!!!!?????
Post # 3
It’s really not as unheard of and embarrassing as you think, unless this is the first time she’s met these people. She’s planning a wedding too, isn’t she, and who better to talk to than somebody who’s just had one? If your friends parents weren’t interested in helping her, or answering her questions, I’m sure they would have tactfully suggested they talk about it later. I’ve had many people call me and ask questions about the two weddings we’ve had this year, and had several approach me at the weddings to ask where I got many things, and I was happy to help. Guess I never thought much of it, and was flattered by it. Many people don’t think it’s ever polite to discuss money, but in this instance, I think it’s understandable.
Post # 4
I just hated that she did it before the ceremony even started and during the reception! Could she not wait until at least a couple of days after??
Post # 5
That’s super embarrassing. I would be upset if anyone asked me how much our wedding cost, especially at the wedding! I don’t know if there’s really anything you can do–moms’ habits tend to be pretty ingrained. I’d say the best you can do is apologize on her behalf if you hear of her doing it again.
Post # 6
At least moneys the only thing your mom is talking about because I can top that! My mom flat out asked me if coordinated my b/c to pick out a date so I won’t get my monthly gift on our wedding…. Not to mention our wedding is year out… couldn’t believe she actually mentioned it to me it’s not like it’s HER problem…. then my dad starts talking a few minutes later…and he’s like did you talk to divergirl about getting the right date? OMFG! you talked about it with dad! So embarassed….
Post # 7
@divergirl: My mom did the same thing!! And DH’s mom told him he should mention it to me too. Like WTF? You really think I haven’t thought of that?
Post # 8
it’s not embarassing that sshe asked it’s embarassing that she asked at the wedding! that’s not the kind of thing people want to be thinking about on the day
Post # 9
Oh gosh. Mothers. I’ve had to (nicely) tell mine before about an etiquette faux pas. She wasn’t happy to have me telling her about it, but it did make her think twice before doing it again.