Post # 1
Hi hive…I just recently went to my friends wedding at the beginning of the month and it was very beautiful! One of the aspects of the wedding that I asked if I could borrow was her “head table backdrop” that consisted of tulle, lights, and sheets. She quickly told me she would let me use it. Then the other day, she texted me asking if I would have any need for some crystals that were scattered along the tables, I told her that I appreciate the offer and I think I can fit them into my own decor. So as of then, I already had “taken” two aspects of her wedding to incorporate into my own.
Which brings me to my question, would it be too much to ask my friend where she got her veil from? I really love how the veil turned out and if it wouldn’t be copying too much, I want to purchase (or borrow, even better) the exact veil. Do you think I should forgo asking her about her veil that she purchased? I’d hate for her to be annoyed that I’m already using her table backdrop and the crystals and now I’m wanting her veil.
I know I may be acting a little silly but I definitely don’t want to be stepping on any toes. What do you ladies, think?
Post # 3
@blondie_6547: It seems like she is okay with you borrowing her ideas. Maybe you can ask if you can use her veil as your ‘something borrowed’. I’m sure that she would be honored.
Post # 4
@trugem: good way to turn an awkward situation into something positive.. and might make the friend feel special to be incorporated into her’s friend’s wedding day!
Post # 5
@blondie_6547:well.. i would be careful but I also say you have to know your friend. If she is kind hearted and doesn’t care, then go for it! but watch out because she could say one thing an feel another way and you don’t want to lose a friend. Shop around.. look at other options.. you never know what you might find.
I’m in a similar situation. My best friend (who is male) got married in August 2010 and they had a concept in their wedding I was going to use (I didn’t tell them I had thought of the same thing). When I saw it.. i was heart broken b/c it was “my thing”. I refuse to do it now (my weddings in may 2011) because I want my wedding to be my wedding and different : (
Post # 6
Ask. She sounds like she doesn’t care too much about you borrowing aspects and let’s face it, NOBODY remembers what the veil looks like except for future brides who overanalize every detail.
Post # 7
I agree with above that you have to know ur friend… a friend of mine got engaged the same year as me and I started saying stuff about my wedding and she was like ya that sounds awesome I was like ok? I dont really know her (only 2years) but I want my wedding to be “my wedding”… but ur friends sounds like she is ok with it so go with it! free stuff or borrowed stuff rocks!