- Miss Care Bear
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Last week I posted a photo of a wedding band I was thinking of purchasing, the concessus of the hive however, was that it didn’t quite match my engagement ring because its modern cut clashed with my antique ring. Some even suggested purchasing a vintage wedding band.
As I stated in previous posts, my engagement ring belonged to my late grandmother on my mother’s side, so it’s antique (about 55 years old) and most wedding bands I tried on did not sit flush, but left a gap as the one in the first picture.
Today, my paternal grandmother came to me very emotional and gave me her wedding band. I tried it on, and lo and behold, it actually matches the engagement ring quite nicely! It might be because they’re both antiques and match in style.
The ring is beautiful, though, as you can see by the fact that it’s on my pinky, it would need to be resized (I also think the setting is silver so I might just change the whole thing to white gold to match my E-ring). It’s also missing one stone, which grandma has offered to get replaced, here is another picture:
Here is a closeup of the ring as well:
The ring is beautiful and my fiance brought up how nice it would be to have a ring from each grandmother. It would also be nice to have a beautiful heirloom and all the better if it saves me the cost of a brand new band. However, while my grandma on mom’s side was blissfully married to my grandfather for 40 years until death did them part, my grandparents on my dad’s side divorced, although quite amicably after about 6 years of marriage.
To be honest, I’m a little weirded out having a wedding band from a failed marriage, like it’s cursed or something, and it’s gonna put some bad mojo on my own marriage. By contrast, I always saw my engagement ring as positive karma because that marriage is the kind of marriage I hope to have.
Am I being silly? Would anybody else feel this way? I talked it over with my best friend/ Maid/Matron of Honor and she thinks I’m being crazy and supersticious so I dunno…
I also don’t want to hurt my poor grandma’s feelings by turning it down, I thought about possibly just taking the stones and making it into a new ring that is similar?
My other concern is that once I get it resized to my ring size, it won’t go “under” my solitaire and it won’t sit flush against it anymore, which I really love, and this IS the first band that matches perfect!
What would YOU do in this situation?
Discuss ladies 🙂