Post # 1
say we have a girl, and call her for example Charlotte Marie (marie being my mums name)
or have a boy and call him Logan Gregory ( Gregory being DHs fathers name)
would that cause offence to DHs mum or my dad?? we dont want to piss anyone off, whats others takes on this? maybe best to leave family names out altogether?
Post # 3
@nearlymarriedlass: My first name is my dad’s mom’s name. Considering I was the favorite of my mom’s mom’s grandchildren (there are 8 of us on that side) I feel confident there was no tension caused by my name.
Post # 4
Depends on what your parents are like but the fact of the matter is that you can’t give the kid 5 names, so you just have to choose and say that’s that. Don’t NOT use a family name because of concern that one parents feelings might be hurt.
Post # 5
I feel like there’s always the potential to offend people. I wouldn’t worry about it though. Name your baby what you want 🙂
Post # 6
Pshhhh you are honoring them and the names are cute!
I would hope they could recognize that its not about them anyway lol
Post # 7
love these responses thanks girls 😀
Post # 8
When we told our parents the name we’d chosen (Leandra Michaela, we are having a girl), we let them know we could really only honor one at a time, but that if we have another child, the other set of parents would get a part in that name. My dad’s name is Michael, but had we had a boy, the middle name would have been Henricus (his dad’s name), and we told them that. They were both pleased and touched that we wanted to include them in the name even if it didn’t happen or wasn’t with this child.
Post # 9
@nearlymarriedlass: My middle name is from my mom-her mom-grandma-great grandma (Marie) and it’s passed down to the first born female in the family… My brother’s middle name is from my dad-his dad- granddad (Allen) and it’s passed down to the first born male in his family. So it’s pretty clear cut for us- females take after my family and males after his. You can’t please everybody so you just have to pick what works best for you & your family and stick to your guns!
My mom’s best friend gave birth to a little boy the same day I was born & her and her hubby couldn’t deal with their families drama over who’s name he took so they gave him-no joke- 6 middle names!!! Poor kid- I’ve got 2 and that’s a little overkill imo…
Post # 10
It might, but you can name your baby whatever you want.
Post # 11
Did you ever see the “Rosebud” episode from the Dick Van Dyke show? Each letter in their son’s middle name stood for an initial of an important family member. They couldn’t offend any family members so they ended up naming the son ROSEBUD. Hahahaha!
Here it is:
Post # 12
@nearlymarriedlass: In your example, you’re using one name from each side of the family. I think that’s fair. If I did that and someone got upset, I’d have to tell them to get over it!
And then you’ve got the gender thing. Like if I had two sons and named one after my dad and one after my fiance’s dad, would the mums be upset? They might, but it’s not enough to make me rename my son “Nancy”!
Point is, you can’t please everybody. Just do what you and your husband feel is right and roll with it.
Post # 13
So not offensive! You even picked one name from each side of the family, so each side has an equal chance of getting the name depending on the baby’s gender. I think your plan is as sweet and inoffensive as it could possibly be 🙂
Post # 14
No I wouldnt worry about offending. We always said if we had a boy his middle name would be DHs fathers name and if we had a girl it would be my Mums middle name – we are haivng a boy so going with DHs dads name 🙂
Post # 15
Why don’t you just share your idea with both sets of parents so as to guage their reactions? And then if their reactions mean a LOTTTTT to you then you have to go back to the drawing board.
Post # 16
@ksus07: word girl, word
@MeeShell: thanks! I agree 😀