could this end up offending?

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: offensive to those not mentioned?
    nah name the baby what you want : (104 votes)
    90 %
    yea, could cause some tension : (12 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 3
    3265 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @nearlymarriedlass:  My first name is my dad’s mom’s name. Considering I was the favorite of my mom’s mom’s grandchildren (there are 8 of us on that side) I feel confident there was no tension caused by my name.

    Post # 4
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Depends on what your parents are like but the fact of the matter is that you can’t give the kid 5 names, so you just have to choose and say that’s that. Don’t NOT use a family name because of concern that one parents feelings might be hurt.

    Post # 5
    5935 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I feel like there’s always the potential to offend people. I wouldn’t worry about it though. Name your baby what you want 🙂

    Post # 6
    2102 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Pshhhh you are honoring them and the names are cute! 

    I would hope they could recognize that its not about them anyway lol

    Post # 8
    3378 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    When we told our parents the name we’d chosen (Leandra Michaela, we are having a girl), we let them know we could really only honor one at a time, but that if we have another child, the other set of parents would get a part in that name.  My dad’s name is Michael, but had we had a boy, the middle name would have been Henricus (his dad’s name), and we told them that.  They were both pleased and touched that we wanted to include them in the name even if it didn’t happen or wasn’t with this child.  

    Post # 9
    2385 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @nearlymarriedlass:  My middle name is from my mom-her mom-grandma-great grandma (Marie) and it’s passed down to the first born female in the family… My brother’s middle name is from my dad-his dad- granddad (Allen) and it’s passed down to the first born male in his family. So it’s pretty clear cut for us- females take after my family and males after his. You can’t please everybody so you just have to pick what works best for you & your family and stick to your guns! 

    My mom’s best friend gave birth to a little boy the same day I was born & her and her hubby couldn’t deal with their families drama over who’s name he took so they gave him-no joke- 6 middle names!!! Poor kid- I’ve got 2 and that’s a little overkill imo… 

    Post # 10
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It might, but you can name your baby whatever you want. 

    Post # 11
    6667 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Did you ever see the “Rosebud” episode from the Dick Van Dyke show?  Each letter in their son’s middle name stood for an initial of an important family member.  They couldn’t offend any family members so they ended up naming the son ROSEBUD. Hahahaha!


    Here it is:



    Post # 12
    830 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    @nearlymarriedlass:  In your example, you’re using one name from each side of the family. I think that’s fair. If I did that and someone got upset, I’d have to tell them to get over it!

    And then you’ve got the gender thing. Like if I had two sons and named one after my dad and one after my fiance’s dad, would the mums be upset? They might, but it’s not enough to make me rename my son “Nancy”!

    Point is, you can’t please everybody. Just do what you and your husband feel is right and roll with it.

    Post # 13
    441 posts
    Helper bee

    So not offensive! You even picked one name from each side of the family, so each side has an equal chance of getting the name depending on the baby’s gender. I think your plan is as sweet and inoffensive as it could possibly be 🙂

    Post # 14
    667 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    No I wouldnt worry about offending. We always said if we had a boy his middle name would be DHs fathers name and if we had a girl it would be my Mums middle name – we are haivng a boy so going with DHs dads name 🙂 

    Post # 15
    2311 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Why don’t you just share your idea with both sets of parents so as to guage their reactions? And then if their reactions mean a LOTTTTT to you then you have to go back to the drawing board.

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