- 5 years ago
I had to create a different account for this post I am about to write. I feel like it could get controversial and heated if people don’t even try to understand where I’m coming from in this matter. I do not want to give ALL the details in hopes of maintaining my own privacy but you can private message me if you have a specific question.
Here’s the story. A few years ago (4 or more), my FI and I were going through a rough time. We were fighting a lot. That same year, I went out of town and so did he. I found out he cheated on me. I was so hurt (of course) and for a few months, we were broken up. The same month when we were attempting to work it out (just talking, hanging out, etc), he got a puppy. I even went to see the puppy and was so excited for him. However, a few days later, I found out that this was actually a gift from the woman he cheated on me with! I was hurt because he tried to hide it from me at first.
Now, years later, when I look at the dog, it brings back all the memories I would rather not live in my head ever again. So needless to say, I am not fond of the dog. Whenever he plays with it or talk to it or does anything that people do with dogs, it drives me absolutely crazy. As if showing affection for this dog is like showing how much he loves it (obviously). Therefore showing how “grateful” he is that this woman he cheated on me with gave him this dog.
Am I crazy to be upset? Do I need to get over it? Part of me says that how I feel is validated because of his hurtful betrayal and part of me says that it’s just a dog and did not have anything to do with the cheating.
My FI is aware of my feelings but I think he forgets or thinks I’m over it because just this morning, he was still doing the things with the dog that drives me crazy. We do not live with the dog now and is at his parents’ house. He likes to say that it’s not even really his dog now, it’s his parents’ dog. We all know that’s really not true though. It was given to HIM.
Thoughts? Whether you agree or disagree with how I feel, please comment below.
I do want to hear input from all of you.