- 5 years ago
I’m hoping you all could give me some guidance on my situation. I’ll be turning 43 next month. My BF is also 43. We met on a blind date, and have been together ever since. We just clicked, where we had everything in common, liked the same things, and were both supportive of each other. Most recently, he had given notice at his job because he was offered another one. Unfortunately, he didn’t start right away like they promised, so for two months he waited for paperwork to be processed. I stood by him, worked remotely and stayed with him to keep him cheerful. We did great together living together.
Well, we both had a bit of an itch for something different. I’ve been at my job 13 years, and have the luxury of working remotely. The cost of living here is outrageous. Well, the opportunity presented itself for us to move to another state where my family is. My brother owns a business that my BF has always wanted to work in, so my brother said if we ever decided to move, he would have a job. So, we said “ok, let’s do this!” We have no kids, we both have good earnings, and we were ready for a change of pace.
Right now, we are getting things ready. Luckily, my BFs friend is being relocated here, so she and her husband are going to take over his condo..and everything is going beyond smoothly. We are looking to move at the end of November.
So, everything is perfect…but…I had told my BF that I would never consider living with a man without a comittment (engagement). Just my personal view. We talk about marriage, so it isn’t that he is gun-shy. My brother and mother, though, have expressed that they really wish we were engaged when we get to our new home. I tend to feel the same way, because I feel since we are making this big step and have already talked about it, making it official isn’t that far fetched. Plus, I’m not wanting to get married immediately. It’s really just the “promise” if that makes sense.
Any ideas on how to bring up the conversation? I know he wants to get married, we just haven’t seriously discussed it. I don’t want to pressure him, so I really don’t know how to bring it up. My brother, who is very protective, feels that if my BF loves me and already says he wants to get married, that he would be willing to take the next step.
Thanks in advance!