- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
Or maybe just commiseration?
I’ve mentioned this quite a few times on here, but R and I are very glad to be moving into our own place June 1. Because we work 50+ hours per week in the summer in the suburbs, moving around the date our lease ends (first week of July) is basically impossible. So we decided to take the hit of one month of overlapping rent. We budgeted it so that we can make it, but money will be tight. We’re used to sticking to budgets, and feel confident we’ll be fine.
Except that the couple we live with broke up. The roommate that ended the relationship was my original roommate from last year. Her boyfriend packed up and went back to their home state. This just happened, but they have had kind of an off again, on again relationship. Because of that, before we all moved in together roommate and I had a talk where I explained that R and I could only pay our share of rent no matter what.
We’ve paid on time every month. They have not. We’re also supposed to split the bills but about six months ago, money stopped being exchanged. We’d put the bills on the fridge like normal, but our bill (the electric) is much higher than theirs (internet) and we could never afford to give their half of internet until they paid us. Since that never happened, despite lots of talking, we have been paying over half of the bills for six months.
Yesterday I got a text from our roommate saying “I hate to ask this, but we have to do rent for June differently. I can’t afford to pay half. The money is just not there.” I basically told her that the money is not there for us either, and I didn’t know what we’d do. She said that we could “even things out in July” – the only problem? She thinks even it out means she pays maybe half the money back. I get the impression she thinks we should step in and pay 2/3 of the rent now.
We can’t afford that, it’s not what we agreed on, and I’m not even asking for the money from the uneven bills back. I plan on being firm about this, and so I sent her a message asking her to write out the specifics of how much she would be short and exactly how she planned to “even it out.” I am very wary about this but she has no qualms being so late on rent that we get eviction notices. I just want to be out of this roommate relationship NOW. She’s a nice person but our things and our credit scores don’t get treated with respect. I am at my wits’ end – the little things (they ruined two of my cookbook covers and never pointed it out or apologized, they stained a couch cushion and did the same thing, their cats destroyed our armchair with their claws and nothing has been said/done, and they don’t pay us back for shared expenses or keep the kitchen clean.)
So I plan on standing firm. But I think that things are going to get awkward FAST. I want to bang my head against a wall. I feel like she is making herself out to be the victim. This has happened again and again. I stand my ground and then I am the b*tchy one.
I’m sorry for the really long vent. I am just so frustrated and feel like I’m in a lose-lose situation. Any advice or thoughts are more than welcome!