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Um... no. I don't think the life would be bad... but you'd be missing out on the potential for SO MUCH more. Money isn't everything.
How bad is my life, hypothetically? If my life was sh*t, maybe? ha.
For many women (mail order brides anybody?) I could see marriage as a loveless "everybody wins" companionship.
I'm the kind of person who's pretty content to be single, but I can honestly see the appeal to it. In another universe, essentially =].
Nope. I can have a great and exciting life on my own, thank you very much. A sugar daddy would be way too easy. (And like others have mentioned, it wouldn't mean automatic ease and happiness. Quite the opposite, probably)
I probably would. If I can have "things" on the side, I'd just have my relationship with FI as-as without a piece of paper sayng we're married. Done & done=)
humm in this lifetime having found the love of my life and knowing how great of a life it is thu we do not have much money i say no..BUT if it was another life where i was suffering a lot living a TERRIBLE life and wanting to die..yes maybe then i take a chance and be in a loveless marriage..still IF kids r involved seeing their parents "having thing on the side" would break their little hearts..so again MAYBE
No way. I guess I can see why people do it, but that is definitely not for me. I would be really unhappy/dissatisfied with my life, and I don't think its the most healthy situation for the kids, either. I want my kids to see me and my husband in a healthy, mutually loving relationship.
That's a really tough question to answer! I don't think I could do it though. Money has never motivated me in that kinda way, which is why we're BROKE right now :). And I'm not good as masking my feelings, or lack there of either so I'd be a miserable wife to that man! But, if this was an arrangement that could make another woman truly happy- good for her! Sounds like it could work for some people.
I never could. I'm totally the type of person that needs a lot of love and affection from my SO - if FI gets really stressed and isn't lovey for a few days, it totally stresses me out. So yeah, I think I would go crazy in that type of marriage!
I could never marry somebody I wasn't in love with. Money, older, younger..none of this matters..what matters is that I LOVE my hubby and I want to spend my life with him. :)
Loving the answers bees.
Personally, I don't know if I could do the mentioned scenario. I agree, maybe a different life, maybe if I were single now, maybe.
I also often wonder if older couples feel this way. With Al & Tipper splitting up in their 60s... will they find love again? Did they not want to spend the rest of their lives with not only the mother/father of their children, but what they say is there best friend?
If I'm 60, and still with my FH, we are still best friends, but some of the "sizzle" is gone.. I'm not going to split up with him.. I would stay in a compaionship type of relationship for the remainder of my days...
This makes me think of my mother's best friend from high school, who married for money knowing that it wasn't really love. She was unhappy in the marriage, they ended up divorcing, and now she's married to another man who she seems really happy with.
When she made the final decision to divorce her first husband, she told my mother that he was a nice man, but "When you marry for money, you earn every penny of it". I didn't understand what she meant at the time, but I think I get it now.
Under normal circumstances, I don't think I would ever marry for money, but in some that have been described by other posters (like ejs) I could see it.
In the mentioned scenario, I just don't see the point of getting married. Why not just continue to see each other? I would definitely never enter a marriage like that, and I don't think I could have a long term relationship like that either. Seems to go against the basic tenets of any strong relationship...honesty, trust, etc.
In that scenario, I would. Being good friends with someone usually means you love them - just not IN love with them. To me, warmth, kindness and affection are a decent basis for a partnership - if you both work at it, you are (IMO) less likely to lose that than the whole "in love" feeling. My (platonic) best friend and i have been through two of my serious relationships and her marriage and separation - we're still going strong lol! Granted, we don't live together (but we used to!)
Anyway, I think that if we were committed to making it work, and always maintained that level of friendship (without one person secretly being in love with the other and all jealous about the affairs), then that might just work out for me!
Great question!
Ella, we are date twins! And, twins in the way that you seem to share my love of hypothetical situations!
If I lived in a world where my FI did not exist, I could probably do it. Before the FI, I was pretty cynical about the concept of a lifetime love with one person or soulmate. I mean, arranged marriages normally work out. Marrying for love is a relatively new concept. I'd rather be the parents from Fiddler on the Roof - in an arranged marriage and grew to love each other, than Romeo and Juliet anyday.
In fact, I still question the idea of just one person out there that is perfect for everyone. And, I believe that a good friendship is an important part of a marriage. It'd be more like roommates, but I don't think it would be a bad situation.
Maybe. If I really liked the guy as a person, and could trust him to follow ground rules with things on the side, then definite maybe.
I wouldn't at this point in my life, though. Now that I have my own career, I am my own sugar. Don't need it from any man.
I have always thought, though, that I could be a good trophy wife for an ambitious spouse, if I were only a bit more of a trophy. 
Like I would be a good politician's wife. Those ladies are usually really sharp and savy.
Ha, ejs, of course he had to be good looking to make the scenario more appealing.. I could never do what Anna Nicole did! But if it were someone that I found to be attractive.. that puts me in the maybe category i mentioned above.
I also agree, that all of this would had to have happened before we had ever met our sweeties - in fact it probably would have happened in a world where you may have never met (that's the fun of hypotheticals!)
Snakeysnake: Hello date twin! I'm an ex-athlete & I was always attracted to athletes, dated them thru school, but when I graduated, there were no more "athletes" just walking around.. so I had a lot of crushes on professional baseball players, even met a few. But seeing the life that some of their wives led, made me go the other direction. The guys are out of town for almost 9 months a year (esp. if they play for a team in a different city then where you live), and a lot of them are doing bad-boy things while they are away... I couldn't live like that, but some of their wives are okay with it. They have the house, the cars, the kids, the cash, and they are okay with that... I couldn't do it.
So between the stuff going on in the media right now, and my past thoughts, I thought I'd put it out there.. its really interesting to see everyone's perspective
Yes I could. Life would be easy and I could have anything I wanted. I probably wouldn't fool around while the kids were under 18, but to have to opportunity to have them set for life without worrying about money would be a big advantage to me.
Love is nice, but marriage is about choosing to be with someone and sticking with them no matter what. As long as you know upfront what you are getting into, who am I to knock people who get married just or money?
Not in my life here and now. If I was living in a poor country with no family, resources, or ability to get a job? Probably.
I would rather be independent and self-made with the possibility of a great romance and life on my own terms. I couldn't imagine staying in a relationship where we were not 100% committed/in love. Of course there will be hard times when we don't get along, but I think that foundation of love is what makes the hard times worth it.
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Okay ladies, this is a totally hypothetical situation.
Based on everything going on with celebrities and infidelities lately got me thinking about different situations. And this was one of them.
Say you were a young attractive girl, and you met and became friends with an older, wealthy, yet attractive male. You weren't sexually attracted to him, but you were really good friends. What if he proposed. Maybe he wanted to have kids, maybe he wanted a "trophy wife"... but for whatever reason, he wanted to marry you.
He said upfront: He may be having things on the side, you could have things on the side, but ultimately, you (and potentially) your children would be set for life. You were essentially married friends.
Could you pass up on "love" for a potentially great & exciting life?
Lots of women do... could you?