Post # 1
On my way to class this morning, I heard a radio segment where a young woman called in to say that her wedding, October 19th, is on the way to being called off…
She has been together with her FI for 3 years and they have been planning their wedding for 11 months. Her mother, and her FI’s father, started dating 3 months ago and eloped to Mexcio over the weekend, making the girl and her FI step brother and step sister.
She wants to go forth with the wedding because they are not blood related, but her FI wants to call ilt off because he doesn’t want to be made fun of by his friends for marrying his “sister.”
Personally, I think it’s very inconsiderate of their parents – who didn’t even discuss this with the two of them. And I think it’s heartbreaking, I feel so bad for the poor girl and I think it was so selfish. BUT on the other side of the coin, I was hearing people (one of my own friends agrees) say that the parents are adults and can do whatever they want, and it doesn’t change the couple’s life and they should still go through with it. They were saying the FI is just looking for an excuse now and that they should be happy for their parents.
I disagree, but I can see both sides of the argument.
So, bees, what would you do in this poor girl’s shoes?
Post # 3
I think I would still go through with it.
Post # 4
@icanhearyousmile: my mom’s very good friend (A) married her husband (B). Soon after A and B were married, A lost her mother and B lost his father. Soon after that A’s father and B’s mother married each other. The children grew up only having one set of grandparents.
When I was young, I thought it was funny. But it really isn’t a big deal.
Had this happened before they were married, A and B are not related by blood, they were already adults when it happened, and the parents can go on and do what they want.
Post # 5
@icanhearyousmile: That sounds made up. Half the things on the radio sound made up though. I would stop speaking to my mother, move, and marry my partner. If he didn’t want to, then I’d move on and still stop speaking to my mother.
Post # 6
@icanhearyousmile: i’ve heard of this happening before, it’s definitely weird but I think I would still go through with it – it would be hard though
Post # 7
I’d still go through with it and then I’d probably disown my mom.
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church
I’d go through with it and likely hate my parents for a good, long time because that was a shitty thing for them to do to their kids.
Post # 9
I’d probably do the same as the other Bees – marry the guy and disown my mom. And, if my FH left me for it, then I would definitely disown my mom.
Post # 11
This sounds like an episode of Maury.
Post # 12
Post # 13
+1 to it sounding fake.
That mom is super inconsiderate. I think if she had just waited til after the wedding, that would have been moderately better.
Just because you’re an adult and can do what you want doesn’t mean you have to be a d*ckhead.
Post # 14
@icanhearyousmile: Oh dear, oh dear oh dear oh dear!
That is very inconsiderate of the parents! I get that they can do what they want, but really? They couldn’t even wait until after their kids’ wedding?
I would disown them, move far, far away and marry the man I love, who cares if they have rings on their finger, really? But if he is gunna call off being with the love of his life for being “made fun of by his friends”, I think I would be seriously talking to him!
I would disown them either way though, the inconsideracy is just mind-blowing…
Post # 15
It could very well be fake, but as far as I know, the radio station actually gets these emails, lol. She had emailed in and wanted a totally unbiased set of opinions from someone outside of the situation. But it could be fake, there’s no way to actually definitively say.
It’s still an interesting quandry, though, especially since she stated she so badly still wanted to marry her FI and HE was the one who wanted to call it off because they’re family now. = I totally think it’s a jerk move on the parents behalf.
Post # 16
@futuremrsk18: HAHAHA I love your comment at the end there. And yet, so many people forget that its not a free for all because your an adult!