Could you please help answer my question about BC? I'm a virgin. TMI.

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
920 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

It is not recommended to do that if you want the full effectiveness of the condom. I personally know people who do it and have never had a pregnancy scare. But if you’re looking for 99% protection from pregnancy, I would say to have the condom on from start to finish. 

Post # 4
1134 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@mshummy:  It could because it does contain sperm. Have you considered other options?

Post # 5
3406 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@mshummy:  why not use the pill and forget the condoms? You’re taking a big risk by not using the condom properly.

Post # 6
10 posts

Yes you can get pregnant that way because sperm can be present. Just wait until you are ready to have children. My best friend learned the hard way to always use a condom. She loves her little girl but she wasn’t ready to be a parent. If you aren’t ready either it’s better not to risk it.

Post # 7
4072 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Is he a virgin too? Don’t trust him to have enough control yet to go condom-less for even part of intercourse.

Either use condoms properly (put it on before he ever enters you and he doesn’t take it off until he is out of you), or use hormonal birth control.

Post # 8
4998 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mshummy:  Yes, you could get pregnant if you don’t use a condom or any form of hormonal birth control. 

I thought they covered this in sex education in most places!

Post # 9
898 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@mshummy:  I understand what you mean about not wanting to use condoms; FI and I don’t like them either. There are other excellent birth control methods that don’t give that barrier a condom does. Have you considered taking the pill? That’s the most popular choice amoungst the Bees here. Depending on how long you’re looking to wait to have kids, you can also look into an IUD? 

Is your FI a virgin as well? The reason I ask is because virgin men sometimes have less control over their ejaculation because it’s new and exciting. That would make putting a condom on half-way very risky; what if he ejaculates before he gets a chance to pull out and put on a condom?

Post # 10
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wouldn’t rely on that method. Get some hormonal BC (pill, nuvaring, whatever). That way you can enjoy sex with your husband, sans condom, without worrying about risking pregnancy. 

Post # 11
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yea I would just put the condom on before he enters you. You could get pregnant. I understand wanting to ‘feel’ him, but honestly there are so many types of condoms out there that you really don’t even feel the rubber. My DH and I used condoms while I was on BC just to be sure we didn’t get pregnant before we wanted.

For what its worth I think it would be a complete buzz kill for him to enter you without condom only to stop, put a condom on and then going back to the horiziontal tango. When I lost my virginity I used a condom and it was still just as fun as without one. 😛

Post # 12
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Preseminal fluid actually does NOT contain sperm. This is a myth that has been debunked.

The only time preseminal fluid would have sperm is if a man had already ejaculated and not urinated afterwards to clear out the semen before having sex again.

However, I will say that I doubt you are going to want to stop half way through sex to put on a condom.


Post # 13
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mshummy:  Are you two staying virgins ’til marriage? (Just curious, haha it doesn’t change anything about BC effectiveness)


And why have you decided to stick to condoms? I agree with the other Bees that putting it on mid-way would be way less effective, but I also understand your desire to ‘be’ with each other completely, skin to skin 🙂

If you’re open to other options I bet a lot of women have great information about different pills, implants, etc. I have an IUD and would highly recommend it… no pills or patches to remember or condoms to deal with. Just closeness with the DH 😉

Post # 15
2355 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Get on the pill or get an IUD. In the heat of the moment, it’s difficult to put that condom on. It’s very risky. I went on a break from the pill for awhile. SO and I did this. It was very, very difficult to stop the moment to put that condom on. We got to the point where we were delaying it to seconds before ejaculation or pulling out at the last second. I very quickly decided to get an IUD.

Also, please remember that you are at risk for STD’s. I don’t know your age or relationship length or your FI’s prior sexual history, but I have an idea in my mind that you two may be young, he is not a virgin, and he is the one who brought up the no-condom conversation. If he is a virgin and I’m wrong, then he will not have the control to get that condom on before he ejaculates.

Post # 16
896 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@mshummy:  Yes, it could get you pregnant.  Why dont u just use BC?

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