(Closed) Counseling…

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@claireos: Wow! This is so awesome! I’m so happy for you right now! My boyfriend and I talk about EVERYHING and we’ve been together for nearly 5 years. So I think we have majority of the toughies out of the way, but I still can’t wait to start marital counseling. It’s such a great thing to do together!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I mentioned this on another thread but I think this is such a great thing you guys are doing. I’m glad to hear your mister is supportive and really into it as well. How far have you gotten with the 5 Love Languages? My mister and I have been talking about reading that for us as well. For me, preparing for marriage is way more important and focusing on just getting engaged. After all, engagemnet is only for a season when marriage is forever.

Post # 5
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Helper bee

Good job! That’s so great that you guys are willing to improve things!

My SO and I read the 5 Love Languages about a year ago and it has made a world of difference for us. Our love languages are completely different, and we used to try and do things for the other in our own language, so we didn’t feel very loved. After gaining understanding from the book, we now feel closer and more loved than we ever used to! Just remember that it is a choice that you make each and every day to do things for your partner in their love language and “fill their love tank”!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@claireos: & @purplebee: I’ll definitely check this book out. Thanks for the recs!

And don’t worry claireos, that totally didn’t sound harsh. It’s actually quite rational and smart. It’ll save you both a lot of turmoil down the road. I wish more people would approach marriage this way!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Sounds like you guys are on a really great track! We read love languages a while ago and its a great reminder just to keep doing things for your partner.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@claireos:  You are definitely smart for taking the time to emotionally prepare for marriage as a couple.  You are also very lucky to have a guy who is willing to prepare with you as well.  This experience will definitely strengthen your relationship!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

@tea:  You couldn’t be more right when you say that preparing for marriage is more important than focusing on engagement.  It’s taken me a while to realize that, and I’m therefore grateful to have this time to strengthen my relationship with SO before we take that next step. 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

That is fantastic! And I’m soo happy that you pointed it out!

I’m actually going to buy the book since I’ve heard so much about it because it doesn’t matter how much you love someone as much as how you show it. πŸ™‚ 

Best of luck to the both of you! 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Congrats!!! I think it’s easy to forget that the important thing is a happy future marriage, not an engagement/wedding ASAP. 

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