Post # 1
Mr. G and I were out at Costco doing the bulk food shop, and as always he had me look at the e-rings. As we were walking around Costco riding the shopping car *imma big kid* I sort of casually said, “you know I wanna be married or at the very least engaged by the time I’m 32 right?” Mr. G says, “but you’re almost 31” I said “umm yeah, I know” then winked at him. He kinda chuckled, kissed me on the forehead and we went back to shopping.
I have no idea where I’m at in the waiting game, but at least he knows what kind of time frame he has!! Right…?!?! <eeeeekkk>
Post # 3
@michkarose: ya it’s good that he know what timeline is acceptable to you. when boyfriend told me his timeline it went something like this: “i will definately ask within 6 months” to which i said “wow i was going to give you 6 months!” then he said”well that’s perfect then. we’re on the same page” who knew?!
Post # 4
Does he know you’re serious about that? I think he needs to take it seriously for it to happen!
Post # 5
Hope he is serious about the timeline. Might want to bring it up in a less casual later just to set in stone. I have the same goal. I’ll be 32 in April so my SO better hurry up!!
Post # 6
He definitey knows I’m serious about the timeline! We’ve had many “marriage/wedding talks”, and we’re on the same page. Both want to get married (to each other :p) have the same view on kids, finances, the whole shebang!!
We’ve only been together 9 months, which in the grand scheme of things isn’t a long time, however I now believe that when you know…you know. I always thought my now married friends were crazy when they said that, (haha) then el blammo…it happened to me.
I have also mentioned to him that as we plan on having a destination wedding, we’ll need approx a year to plan; although that’s mostly to give guests time to make travel arrangements.
BTW: Our one year anniversary is one week before I turn 31
Post # 7
Last night in the kitchen:
Mr. G: “Can we have a gift registry at _____?”
Me: “Gift registry for what babe?”
Mr.G: “Well, for when we get married”
Me: “Oooh, we’re getting married are we”
Mr.G: “Well, yeah of course”
Me: “You kinda have to propose first…”
Mr.G “Yeah I know. So when we get married, can we have a gift registry at _____?”
LOL, he drives me crazy sometimes!!
Post # 8
@michkarose: I think you guys should have a real conversation about both of your timelines, not a joking timeline you espouse in line at Costco. Marriage should be something you guys are on the same page about, not something you drop hints about and hope about quietly in the dark.
Post # 9
@crayfish: You’re absolutely right!
We have had serious talks about marriage, and he in fact is the one who first brought wedding topics up. We’re on the same page about marriage, children, finances, everything that are usually trigger points for arguments in relationships.
We also plan on buying a home together soon, and he knows I will not commit to buying a home wiith him, until he commits to marrying me. I already have a downpayment, and he will have his downpayment when he sells one of his apartments. The apartment will go on the market in July, so fingers crossed it sells for the price he wants, and doesn’t take too long!
I don’t mind the wait, and the “jokes” he makes are all in good fun. The serious talks have been had, it’s not like I’m “waiting” to find out if he wants to marry me. He does <3 It’s just a matter of a few things that need to be taken care of first.