Post # 1
We’ve actually had 3 couples break up after their RSVP that they were both attending. In both cases, we invited a friend, and their significant other that we don’t know as well. No one told us “x won’t be attending anymore” but they have shared the breakup publicly.
We did not give “+1s” as we were limited on space, only invited those in a relationship.
Do we keep the other person on the seating chart? Next to each other? Seperate? I would assume neither of the SOs are coming as they don’t know us. They were basically invited as a date. Both of the people coming know plenty of other people at the wedding and will be seated with friends or family.
Post # 3
I’d just remove them from the seating chart since they’re not mutual friends. I can’t imagine wanting to spend an evening alone at a wedding with all my exes friends after a recent breakup.
Post # 5
I’d say it’s safe to remove them from the seating chart, but maybe shoot your friends a quick email like “So this is awkward, but it’s safe for me to assume that your ex isn’t coming right?”
Post # 6
You have to call them and ask if they will be coming alone now- they may be on good terms with the ex, they may think they can replace their ex with someone else, they may decide to come alone, or they may decide to not attend at all – but you need to know that before you give your final numbers and plan your seating chart.
Post # 7
@WoodenShoes: I agree, your best bet is to just ask the friends, instead of trying to guess. You’ll probably have 3 different answers from the 3 couples, as every breakup is different.
Post # 8
this is weird but I actually know a couple that broke up about a month ago and are going to a wedding together today…. the female in the relationship isn’t particularly close but I guess still wanted to go and they are friendly enough so it worked out. I would definitely ask before making plans.
Post # 9
Definitely call and ask what there plan is. I think some people might assume it’s okay to bring someone else along in the exes place.
Post # 10
+1 for asking the friends.
Post # 11
You need to contact them, and not assume anything. Depending on the breakup, they might still be on friendly terms. Some couples will honor commitments to attend events together even after they’re no longer a couple–orthers don’t. Plus, in the drama of the breakup, they might not have thought about how to handle this particular situation.
Post # 12
Call and ask! We had someone break up and they’re still really good friends with their ex so there is a chance he’ll come anyways.
Post # 13
I would certainly follow up with your friends to find out what they think is happening and truthfully, I think it would be a bit tacky to tell them they can’t bring a replacement guest if that is their plan.
Post # 14
I would ask each invitee personally if the ex is still planning to come.. If so, seat them together.
Post # 15
I agree with PP, you should just ask them what their plans are.
Post # 16
Ask your friends.
If I was invited to a wedding as the +1 (and didn’t know the couple well) and we broke up, I would in no way assume that I was still invited or even go.