couple counseling – did anyone take advantage of it?

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
98 posts
Worker bee

Hey there,

 

I postponed my wedding 6 weeks before the date because of anxiety and red flags. I felt like you did – very confused and very anxious and tying my brain in a knot trying to “figure it out”. After I postponed my wedding, my fiance and I went to couples counselling to discuss our issues. We ended up splitting up afterwards. However, going to counselling showed ME that we had really done everything we could to make it work. Counselling will hopefully give you 1. The tools you need to go forward again in your relationship, or else 2. It will give you the clarity and strength to see you are not right for each other. The only thing I would recommend is trying to find a counsellor who shares and understands the things that you value/are important to you. My counsellor did not, and it made things harder for me.

 

Most of all, take care of yourself, and don’t be afraid to choose what you believe in your heart of hearts is the right way (even if it is the hardest).

 

Love and good luck to you!

 

Post # 4
Member
98 posts
Worker bee

PS. I am sorry, I didn’t mean that to sound discouraging. Just because we split up, obviously doesn’t mean you will! Counsellor’s do help you see in the confusion though. Just get a good one!!!!

Post # 5
Member
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Counseling is a fantastic option, even for very healthy relationships. We did it before our wedding since it was provided through my employer for free, and it really brought us closer, gave us some really interesting food for thought, and taught us some new things about each other. I think it can be even MORE useful if you have particular areas of concern in your relationship. 

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