Post # 1
I’m invited to a wedding this summer, and I started to discuss it with another friend whom I thought for sure would be invited too. However, he informed me that he never received an invitation. This friend is very close to the couple, and even visited them cross country last year. I also know of other people invited to the wedding who definitely are not as close to the couple as this guy. I’m like 90% sure the couple just forgot to invited him! Should I tell the bride?? How do I do that in a way that’s not rude? I’m truly trying to be helpful because I know the couple would be upset if they realize the mistake after the wedding.
Post # 3
Hmm thats a tough one, I am inclinded to gently say something just in case they did forget OR in case this person’s invite was lost in the mail. Just try to be really non-chalant non-threatening about it. Like “oh I am excited for your wedding do you know if FRIEND’s Name is going to be able to make it?” Kinda play dumb like you havent even spoken to him yet type deal.
Post # 4
A couple years ago, my best friend/roommate received an invitation to a close friend’s wedding, but I did not. I was crushed. I moped for an entire month. Then, we all went out for drinks and the bride asked why I had not returned my RSVP card yet. I was like “I thought I wasn’t invited!!” Turns out, I WAS, it just got lost in the mail. She assured me I was invited and sent me a new invitation. Sure enough, I got the original one a few days after the new one, looking like it had been run over by several cars.
I would just ask. Just say, “hey, are so and so coming?” Try to sound casual.
Post # 5
OH! And I “forgot” to invite my cousin Phil (whom I haven’t seen since I was a child) and my Uncle John (his father, and a total dick) called and bitched my Dad out. Don’t go that route. Now I have to send an invite to Phil, and I’m bitter about it.
Post # 6
I like lovespearls idea. I think being casual is the best idea in this situation.
Post # 7
Things DO get lost in the mail- we found out that a handfull of our guests never got their STD card so it definitely happens. I would just casually mention it to the bride; if it turns out the invite got lost I’m sure she will appreciate the heads up.
Post # 8
I agree with playing dumb and happening to bring up person you think might have been forgotten. I def almost forgot a few people and was happy my mom and FMIL pointed a few out. I wouldn’t phrase it as an ouright “did you invite X” way.
Post # 9
I like the idea of just causally mentioning it, like “so, are the so-and-so’s coming to the wedding?” That way, if it was an oversight, she can fix the situation and invite them. If there really was a reason to leave them off the list, she can let you know discretely.
Post # 10
I think if you really do think it was a mistake and they would be expected to be invited I would definatly ask the bride about it. I wouldn’t hide the fact that you’ve talked to the guy because when you ask “hey is Dude going to make it.” & She says “I dont know we havn’t heard back from them.” Then you need to somehow be able to say well I talked to him and he said he didn’t get an invite. If you act like you havn’t talked to him then your lieing. I say ask the bride. No big deal. Tell her you were having lunch with Dude & you accidently asked about the wedding not realizing that he wasn’t invited and see what she says.