Post # 1
I am going to be hosting a couples baby shower for my best friend and wanted to get some general tips, suggestions, ideas, etc.
First, has anyone hosted a shower where the couple did not open the gifts in front of everyone, or found a way to speed up the process? Let’s be honest, this is the most boring part of the shower, and from what all my guy friends tell me this part is always “too boring and too long” so I thought about either having guests give their gifts to the couple as soon as they arrive and they can open in front of them vs. everyone else. Or, trying to think of a game or some way to keep the “opening presents” part to 30 mins max. Any ideas?
Also, when I spoke to my best friend yesterday she told me that I should ask someone else if they want to help me. I don’t think I want to do that because a) I have a vision and kind of want control over the theme, decor, and food. And b) I do not really know these other girls which wouldn’t be a big deal, but I would feel awkward asking because none of them have told her they want to help throw her a shower nor have expressed interest; so I think it would be weird to ask them if they want to help. What do yall think?
Post # 3
@AnnieAAA: I went to couples shower recently. It was a very sweet, casual party in the couples’ home, a backyard BBQ. I think this feeling kept the gift-opening to a minimum. Some guests asked the mom-to-be to open a gift or two, so they could see her reaction but mostly, the couple did not open gifts. There were lawn games and of course, tons of food, so it was just a nice occasion for mingling. I certainly didn’t miss the typical baby shower activities/games!
Post # 4
DH and I went to an awesome couples baby shower over the summer, clearly the host is on pinterest, they did a “Beer, BBQ, and Baby Bowties” theme, expecting a bow. I can’t remember exactly how the invite phrased it but it basically said don’t wrap your presents just stick on a “beau” – and when we got there they had a table set up and they basically just displayed the gifts. It was way more of a bbq get together than baby shower, but the baby theme was tied in with decor and food.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@AnnieAAA: Do it BBQ style like PP suggested and have it coincide with a Cowboys game so the guys have something to do (i.e. watch football) while the mommy-to-be opens presents.
Post # 6
I love this thread. I’m hoping my family will do a couples party for me since it will be around the holidays and I would love to see all of my family, not just the women. I personally would be offended if I couldn’t see the mama open a gift I got for her–especially if I had put a lot of thought/effort/$$ in to it, but that’s just me. I kind of like the idea someone else said that the gifts were not wrapped and just put on display on a table.
Post # 7
Shower games are usually lame. The gift-opening IS the fun part. And the whole point is to shower them with gifts. Plus it gives the couple a chance to thank the givers in person and not have to write thank-you’s while breast-feeding. I don’t think anyone attends these things if they hate watching people open presents. If you speed through it, the couple might not have as much fun.
Post # 8
If the Mommy doesn’t want to open presents either, just have people bring them unwrapped and do it like a sip-n-see (minus the baby) – just put them on a table. I’ve also seen games for present opening, like gift bingo. You put in what you think they’ll get on your board, then do bingo while they’re opening presents.
Also I’m sure you can handle it yourself, I just threw a shower for my cousin a few weeks ago. If someone offers have them do something easy that costs money. 🙂 Like pick up the cake or get balloons.
Post # 9
I started a thread about baby showers not too long ago. I felt like the general consensus about opening gifts was “that’s what you do” “tradition”, “that’s what it’s all about.”
Quite honestly it is boring as hell and no one but the expectant mother and future granmothers gives a crap what is inside the bags and boxes.
I went to a baby shower which was boring as hell and all my friends all female agreed that it was boring as hell. The girl was opening presents for over an hour.
No one should be forced to watch you open more than like 5 presents of baby stuff. Bridal showers I like more casue the gifts are usually way more fun.
Post # 10
@cora_123: I was thinking about doing something very similar about asking guests not to wrap the gifts & have them displayed on a table, so I’m glad to hear others did it and it was percieved well. Thanks!
@beachbride1216: Good idea as well, we have the date, so I need to see what games will be on that day and tie it into the theme (they are having a boy, so it can tie in nicely.)
Post # 11
@cora_123: That sounds like the best idea for a baby shower ever.
Post # 12
If youre going to open presents ask other girls to help you! Thats what makes it go fast!
Post # 13
What if she opened family gifts but not friend gifts?
Or corall the men, have another room with scotch for them, and let the Mom open presents in the other room!
I was also once at a shower where they would call a “Baby Bingo” item, then the Mom would open a gift or two. So there was more going on than just presents!
Post # 14
@AnnieAAA: I have been to several couples baby showers where they did not open gifts and it was totally fine.
Post # 15
For my family bridal/baby showers, we normally play Present Bingo. That way people are focused on marking off their boxes/winning, versus just sitting there staring at the person unwrap gifts. It has become quite competitive, and you can do prizes such as 6pks of beer, gift cards, candles, wine, make-up, sports memorbilia, etc. so people are actually interested in winning.
Post # 16
Is it sad, that at as a mommy to be, I would probably rather watch the football game than open baby presents?? Or hanging out with the guys drinking…water with lemon 🙂