Couples shower gift, what to do??

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think the point of a shower is the shower the couple for gifts.  If they are all set, they should just have a party to celebrate with their friends, not a bridal shower.  I might buy them a bottle of booze and some monogrammed glasses.

Post # 4
Hostess
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@laurel946:  Could you give them a gift card towards the same store the bedding items are from? That way they can get something else they might need and didn’t think of at the time of registering.

Post # 5
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d do a gift certificate to a restaurant and a bottle of wine or something for a date night.  If they’re into spa treatments, I’d get a gift certificate for a couples massage. 

Post # 6
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2913 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

i’m in a similar situation. i know someone who’s getting married soon and they’re not planning on having a registry (they’d rather have money), but the bride is still planning/expecting to have a shower, so i’ve been wondering how that’s going to work…like, what’s the point of a shower if you don’t want gifts?

anyways, i would just buy a gift card to the store where they’re registered.

Post # 7
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1872 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah that’s bizarre to have a shower if they don’t have a registry, really. Most people are going to want to give physical gifts at a shower.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@laurel946:  A lot of men have never been to showers before, and someone popping up with a couples’ shower is the first time they’ve been invited. I had that happen with mine. We had a couples’ shower because I felt weird excluding half my friends and all the stuff on the registry was for my husband anyway (cooking stuff, you know, man things, since my man stays in the kitchen). All the dudes at mine really liked it though, probably because showers in my family involve my uncles mixing everyone very very strong drinks.

Post # 10
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11734 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ugh. I think this is one of the reasons I dislike honeyfund – especially at showers!  The point is to “shower” the bride with gifts.

 

I guess in your case, I’d buy something off the honeymoon registry, and supplement it with something that matches.  Like, if you get them something for a beach honeymoon on the honeyfund, get them a pair of towels, flipflops, and sunscreen.  That way there’s something to open, but they’re still getting what they asked for.

 

Post # 11
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917 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I went off-registry for one of my bridesmaids and bought her champagne flutes for toasting at the wedding. From Tiffany! There were under $75 for the pair, she hadn’t purchased any, and I cleared it with her first. They still love those flutes 5 years later and bust them out on anniversaries. They also kept and gigantic Tiffany blue box they came in… Because when else do you acquire one of those?

Post # 12
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8593 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah…I personally think Honeyfund or honeymoon registeries at showers are pretty inappropriate.

The point of the shower is to get physical gifts that you need to start out with.

If you have everything you could want…you shouldn’t be having a shower.

Celebration, fine.  But no shower.

I’d just get a gift card or something at the store where their registry is from.

Post # 14
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2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

how about a homemade gift like “movie night”? couple dvd’s, gourmet popcorn, a nice blanket, some candy?

or “date night”? movie theatre gift card, restaurant gift certificate?

 

 

Post # 15
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1249 posts
Bumble bee

Honestly besides asking the couple (depending on your relationship), I don’t know what to do. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to have a “shower” if they don’t need anything.  Leaves me feeling awkward.  The best I can think of is a gift card, but if its not visa, it may end up wasted. They may only have registered out of obligation & if they get everything off their registry, then what?

 

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