Post # 1
FI and I are doing a couples shower instead of a traditional bridal shower and making it more like a cocktail party with freinds and family. Problem is, I am having some trouble with the guest list…
Should I invite all the people who would traditionally be invited to a bridal shower (ie all the female family and driends) and their spouses or invite male and female friends (and their spouses)? I guess the better way to word it is would you invite guy friends to a couples shower?
Even though it will be more of a party than a shower, it feels strange to invite some of my guy friends and I was wondering what other people have done as this isn’t a traditionaly scenario.
Post # 3
I would do the family type thing and the people you would invite to a normal bridal shower, but invite the guys to it as well. I would feel weird to invite my guy friends as well because it would feel more like an engagement party than a bridal shower type thing.
Post # 4
My friend did this recently and it was the best shower I’ve ever been to. I think she invited the traditional way, making sure to let us know to bring our husbands or SO… At one point, the men wandered off to talk over beers and we women spent some time talking (well, over beer too, but also wine) and then everyone moved back together for food and cake. It was very laid-back and very fun.
Post # 5
I would recommend a couples shower only if you have a smaller wedding. If you have a larger wedding adding the guys would make a mini-wedding! That being said invited everyone if it is small and only family/close/close friends if its big.
Either way I love couples showers! Very modern twist on an old school tradition. The stuff is for the two of you anyways so he may as well get to enjoy it too. 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks ladies. I think I will revamp the guest list a little and invite the women I would for a regular shower and their SO’s.
Our wedding is pretty small – we are only inviting 90 and most of my family and BM are from OOT so if I didnt’ do it co-ed there probably would have been 7 people there!
Post # 7
We had one about a month ago and invited everyone that was in the wedding along with there spouse and children… it made for a large shower but everybody had a good time.
Post # 8
We had the same thing in our wedding. We had couple’s shower instead of bridal shower. And we invited everyone in that party. Me and my husband first thought to invite only female friends and their partners but after some discussion we thought its not a normal bridal shower, its a couple’s shower. And when we are doing something different from what traditional is, then why we follow the rule.So we invite all our friends including male and females.