Post # 1
Growing up we all hear other couples saying how they fall more in love every day or at least see it in movies and what not. Does that really happen? How do you fall more and more in love? Arent you already in love? Doesnt it just stop at that?
I have. For sure. I wouldnt say ‘everyday I fall more and more in love’ but I would say that I am more in love with FI than I was when he proposed. I dont know what it is, nothing has changed in our relationship in the last 2 years (since he popped the question) so why am I more in love? I dont know. It might be that I am even more comfortable and confident in us. It might not be. I just know that as of today nothing will make he happier than to marry him and spend the rest of my life with him. He isnt this super romantic/touchy guy at all, so when he says thank you, kisses me, even cuddles me I melt! It really reassures me of his love for me. I dont need it cause I know how he is but I sure do love it! I am so glad that we waited to get married. We have been together for over 5 years and have been engaged for 2 of those. We really have worked 95% of everything out. I would love to say 100% but thats unrealistic. We dont fight anymore, not big fights. I mean he still does things that piss me off but we talk about it like adults. When I see other couples our age (25 and 28) that are getting separated and divorced it really makes me appreciate what we have and recognize how important of a decision marriage is.
That is all. 🙂
Post # 3
I really do find something in my FI every day that I appreciate and love more about him.
Post # 4
I definitely love my FI more now than I did when he proposed (and I was deep in love at that time). He is ridiculously sweet and thoughtful and is always doing little things ‘just because’. Sometimes I just look at him and I feel like I fall in love a little bit more. We were in a LDR for 2 years when we went to college in separate states (then he transfered to be closer to me) and I feel like that experience has made me really appreciate him so much more.
Like you, I am also glad we waited to get married. We met when we were 13, started dating at 15, got engaged at 25 and now will be getting married at 27. I would say we have 99.999% of things worked out, lol. Most of the people I went to high school with who got married super young are now divorcing 🙁
Post # 5
I don’t say this to other people unless they ask, but after 7 years I do feel that I am more and more in love every day. It really depends on what you view as love. I don’t see the traditional romantic gushy stuff as the only possible love. The love I feel is deeper, like I know I am my own person but am fuller with him as my partner. It’s hard to describe. I find something about him every day that I find fascinating, but also the stuff I already know about him continues to become more meaningful to me. It’s this that gives me feelings of increased love between us.
Post # 7
for sure! there are some HOURS where I love him less, haha, but on a general note yes I do love him more and more. it’s like I fall in love with him over and over again so the butterflies just swoosh around and I’m like UGH why is he so perfect?!?!
also as a person matures I believe they’re more capable of love. a little kid loves their parents in such a different way than the parent loves the kid. it’s a needy, taking love. so it makes sense that a couple’s love matures as they mature themselves!
Post # 8
@jesssamesssa: I think it is just a saying, but it has some truth. After 8 1/2 years with my partner, I still get occasionally butterflies and whatnot, but I don’t grow more in love with him on a daily basis. Our relationship is always evolving and growing and there are days I love him more than others, but I think that is just how relationships go.
I think the “I love him more and more each day” is part of the Hollywood love myth. Your love can grow and evolve, but unless you married each other as an arranged marriage, odds are you already loved each other and your relationship and ways to love each other are just shifting.
Post # 9
@Laurenplusalex: YES hahaha
But in all honesty .. yes I do fall more in love with him everyday. As our love grows it changes but for the better!
Post # 10
Yes I do fall in love with my FI more and more each day. (:
Post # 11
@Laurenplusalex: I definitely have those days!!! 🙂 lol
Post # 12
@Laurenplusalex: bahahaha +1!
I think there’s some truth to it. Just this morning FI was leaving for work and I was still in bed half asleep, and the way he leaned over to kiss me good bye and whispered “I love you” was just so sweet, I was just thinking how much I love him!
Like you, OP, we’ve gotten past our stage where we would occasionally get into fights. I think a lot of that was not only adjusting to living together, but adjusting to living on our own (not with our families), since we moved in together shortly after graduating college. Now that we’re past our adjusment phase, things are much better. Of course we annoy each other, but we don’t fight anymore, just little spats. And I actually think we’re happier and closer now that we’re engaged. I think FI feels relieved that the pressure is off (he was so nervous about how to propose!) and is really happy. And we’re really becoming a team with the wedding planning (and wedding drama). It’s pretty awesome 🙂
Post # 13
@Laurenplusalex: Haha brilliant!
I think there’s truth in it 🙂 we’ve just moved in together, and while I’ve found a couple of things annoying I’m also finding things that make me love him in other ways that I would not really have thought about before!
Post # 14
I find different things I love about him every day. It’s in the little things he does, and I do believe our marriage and friendship strengthens each and every day.
Post # 16
I’m not the type of person who says it about our relationship to other people, but I do agree that there is truth in it – even after 10 years together. I’m always amazed when I realize my love has grown, as I always feel as though I couldn’t love any more than I already do.