- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
For background on why I’m looking for a therapist, please read the post about my FMIL: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/stand-up-for-myself-or-smile-and-nod-fmil-opinionated-always-gets-her-way#axzz2a4uclesH
If you don’t want to read the long, long story here’s the TL;DR version: FMIL hates me because she would hate anyone who is stealing her precious baby boy from her. We’ve been together for 6 years and she basically ignored me until we got engaged about 2 months ago. Now that we’re engaged, she pretty much wants to convince everyone that I’m not good enough to be in the family and will ruin FI’s life. She tells EVERYONE how worried she is that she is going to lose a son rather than gain a daughter, but really she would love for me to be out of the picture so she can be the most important woman in her son’s life forever. I’m not exaggerating on any of this. FI and his family have talked to FMIL about her behavior, but no one really puts their foot down; everyone coddles her and lets her be a steamroller.
FI agrees with me that we should see a therapist to help us negotiate this issue, which I am really happy about! I think it will be great for us, especially because the issues with his mom can seep into other parts of our relationship and neither of us like when that happens. Now it’s on to actually finding someone to go to. Have any bees gone to counseling in the Boston area? Any recommendations?