Couples Therapy

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i have no heard of it, but good luck.  i hope you are able to find solutions before the wedding.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

TaraPants:  EFT focuses not on the feelings and emotions you are having but how to deal with them more appropriately. This sounds like a good approach for you if you are finding that you are very emotional and tend to overthink things (I have the same problem). This therapy will help you see that it is normal to have a range of emotions but it will teach you how to respond to those emotions so that you are not harming yourself or your FI. 

 

You will probably discuss how to talk about issues as they come up. “I feel this way because you did this…” Most of the time the biggest problem is lack of communication. You may feel a certain way but don’t exactly know how to express it to him in a way that you think he will understand or respect. Hopefully therapy will help you guys with that.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

TaraPants:  Good for you for going together! I’m so surprised at how reluctant people are to seek professional help when they are going through a difficult time.  And that is awesome that your FI is actually willing to go with you.

I can’t comment on the type of counselling you mentioned, but I can tell you that my DH and I go for counselling and the support we have received through this has helped us build an absolutely amazing relationship.  No relationship is without struggle, so counselling offers ways to help you learn tools and techniques for resolving issues as they come up.  Can’t say enough about how wonderful counselling has been for our relationship.

Good luck!

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

TaraPants:  I’m not sure about types of therapy, but I’ll second previous posters and say that DH and I did several sessions of couples therapy before we got married (as a preemptive measure) and it helped tremendously. It’s really helpful to have an objective party that can see the situations from both sides. The best thing DH and I took away was how to communicate more effectively and how to show love more effectively.

 

Also, if you haven’t read the book The 5 Love Languages, I would highly recommend it. That also helped a lot with our communication. Good luck!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

TaraPants:  I think EFT can be a helpful resource. No therapists can magically make issues disappear you and FI need to work though them which might be stressful at times. But it looks like you’re on the same page in regard of adressing things, so you seem to be moving in the right direction. Good for you & best of luck to you and FI. 

Post # 13
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Newbee

TaraPants:  keep us updated! were considering a smiliar route, either pre marital education classes or counseling 

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