Couples Wedding Shower?? A good option??

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

mswilson1721:  If you have a lot of male friends I think this is a great idea, some of my closest friends are guys and I was a little bummed they were left out of the wedding stuff.  But something about the couples showers always turns me off a little.  Maybe it’s the palpable sensation that half the guests violently don’t want to be there.  This isn’t speaking for every guy, I’m sure there are guys out there who would love to go, but in my experience guys don’t get into it, they don’t look like they’re having a good time, and they want to leave as soon as their wife or girlfriend will let them.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Showers are hosted for you by someone else, so I presume you mean this would be your choice, if asked.

I have been to a few couples showers. At two of them the guys either sat there glumly drinking beer during the gift opening, or left the room altogethr to chat amongst themseves.

At the third, the hostess had asked us all to go in on one big gift, so there as no painful gift opening for the guys. The gift was a  huge stainless steel BBQ so the guys were immediately involved in a discussion about their favorite BBQ recipes, and because there was no lengthy gift opening, we all socialized like any other party.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

mswilson1721:  I planned my best friend’s shower and it was for guys and girls. It was held in the function room of a bar and I think everyone had a great time mainly because it wasn’t the typical shower. There was food, drinking, and present opening. There were no games/prizes and the couple opened the gifts together. I think it worked because it wasn’t “girly” and it was unlike a traditional bridal shower. 

That being said, I don’t think it will always work this way and unless you’re planning to eliminate games and traditions, I’d go with a female only shower.

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

mswilson1721:  We are having a couples shower next month! I think it’s a cute idea. I love that FI gets to be included, too, and all of our friends, including male friends. I love that my dad and my brother get to be there. I say do it!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

if you dont like showers, then just dont have one. I didnt want one and my DH really had no interest in attending a couples one, so i didn;t have anything. I really didnt need the extra gifts and people supported us be attending the buck and doe and being there for our wedding. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I definitely would’ve liked a couples shower vs my bridal shower. I’m appreciative to my MIL for throwing me the shower, but it was my husband’s side of the family (his aunts & cousins), so I didn’t even know who some of the people were! I hate being the centre of attention too so I would’ve loved it if my husband (then fiance) was there with me to share the spotlight!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

mswilson1721:  I think something to remember is you can have a “couples shower” without the guest list having to include a lot of guys. To me it just means that both the bride and the groom are present at the event and being “showered” with gifts or congratulations. Then if any gals want to bring along their SO (and their SO wants to come) or you have guy friends and their girlfriends that want to come, it can feel much more casual. I think we are having an equivalent to a couple’s shower in September (but it’s confusing, I couldn’t really explain it haha) and I think it’s just going to be a hodgpodge of guests, not necessary an even number of guys and gals.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

We just went to one. It was great! My FI didnt even know anyone and he had a great time. Just have a lot of manly things to do for them… And booze lots of booze guys like that lol and so do the ladies! Lol. Do it if you want I bet you won’t be disappointed. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I’ve been to a few, and would like to have one. The ones I’ve been to have been more of a party atmosphere than a traditional shower, so the guys don’t feel awkward. BBQs or restaurants with nice bar settings are always a good option. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

mswilson1721:  We had a couples shower and we just called it a “wedding shower”. It was more of a cookout with some booze and it was a blast! I’m not a fan of the stuffy, formal bridal showers I have been to, so wanted to do something different. It was great because we had a ton of family and friends and people got to know each other before the wedding. My MOH had 1 game, which was a “who knows the bride and groom best” Basically she read questions with multiple choice responses, and if you got it right you “stayed in the game” and the last person standing won. We did open our gifts together. It was a lot of fun!!!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I amnot a huge fan of the traditional ladies only shower either! We had two couples showers and I highly recommend them!

One was thrown by his aunt and was basically a backyard cookout with cornhole and ladder ball and croquette and beer and German food (the aunt teaches German). It was fantastic!!! We all showed up and chatted and drank and played games. Then we had food. The my husband and I opened presents, which went faster since  we went back and forth opening. Then more chatting and drinking and games. Everybody had a great time!

The other was thrown by one of my family friends. This one didn’t have a meal, but had lots of heavy apps out and lots of wine (she and I both love wine) and beer. So everyone showed up and hung out and chatted and ate and drank. Some people played some board games. Then we opened presents, trading off again. Then people hung out and chatted.

I, honestly, loved my showers because they were just like any other party with a brief pause to open some presents. Go for it!!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee

A BBQ or bonfire sounds like the kind of shower I would actually want to go to!! A bonfire sounds extra cool because I don’t get to go to those often. Doooo it!

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