(Closed) couples weekend diss

posted 8 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Hmmm… I don’t know. I’ve had friends that invited us out for V-day stuff and we always decline too, because we like to just be alone on that day. Albeit, we automatically do it, instead of saying we’ll think about it. I don’t know – it sounds like they have a lot going on with a pregnancy and stuff – it may not be you, they may just be busy?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

I wouldn’t take offense.  They want to spend the holiday/anniv alone together.  I don’t think their explanation was meant to be an indictment of your relationship.  If you’re good enough friends, she should be able to be honest with you about why they are declining without hurting your feelings.

Post # 5
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3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree with rosy….

Post # 6
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I also agree with rosy. She probably gave you the explanation BECAUSE she didn’t want you to feel rejected. Don’t worry

Post # 7
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401 posts
Helper bee

I don’t think it’s a diss.  However, if you feel it’s an uneven friendship, taper off your offers and see what happens and if they don’t step up then, well, it is what it is.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I agree with Rosie and Gab, it sounds to me more like she probably felt bad for not spending the time with you and didn’t want to just give you a flat out “no” with no reason.

Post # 9
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545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Yeah… dont be offended!! it sounds like a lot: pregnancy, vday

but… like they said above.. maybe dont invite them out so much since you feel one sided and see what happens

Post # 10
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1336 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I wouldn’t be offended, I don’t think they said it in any mean way.  They probably thought about it and realized they wanted more couple time, which is understandable it’s V-day. 

Post # 11
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

They may have a family like mine.  A “no” is not good enough so I always have to come up with a reason deemed acceptable and I find it has to be one that can’t be argued. 🙂 

Post # 12
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18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think I understand why they want this time alone, especially because they are going to have a baby soon.  I wouldn’t think of it as a diss at all.  Just try to do other things with them on less important holidays.

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