Couples who live together – Tell me about your Registy!

posted 2 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Busy bee

We both have all of our stuff from our apartments but most of it is not that nice. We registered for pretty much everything and are either donating our old stuff to the local good will or selling it at a garage sell (toaster, coffee maker, old crusty pyrex, cups, mismatched decor, etc.)

We also registered for nice serving platters, BBQ equipment, and other misc. things for having guests over. Also nice new bedding that we both liked for our room and the guest room. Same with towels. Our old ones went to the guest bath, and the really crappy cheap ones became dog towels (ha!).

We also registered for some organization stuff, like under cabinet pull out shelves for pots and pans, and extra throws/blankets. Can never have enough of those!

 

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We didn’t register.  We got a few boxed gifts, all of which were thoughtful, and things that people really felt like they wanted us to have (stuff-wise).  The remainder of the gifts were in envelopes.

We had a couple things we wanted, mostly linens.  When people found out that we weren’t registered and asked what we wanted we mentioned that we really didn’t need anything, but that if they wanted to get us something linens in a dark neutral colour would be appreciated.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

just_another_dandelion:  We’ve lived together for two years, but most of our kitchen and linens are crap from college. We registered for a lot of new kitchen appliances like a kitchenaid blender and mixer, a juicer, and a crockpot. We also registered for new pots and pans, knives, silverware, a nice cutting board, nice wine glasses, other kitchen gagets we need. We also registered for a new vacuum, nice sheets and a mattress pad and sets of nice fluffy towels. Basically we registered for all the things we don’t already have because they weren’t necessities at the time, and to upgrade a lot of the stuff we already had but was junk. After the wedding we are going to be doing a mass drop off at goodwill or salvation army with all the stuff we are replacing. I’m really excited to have some nice things and get rid of all the mishapen, cheap, torn stuff we’ve been holding on to over the years.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

FI and I have lived together for 3 years and have owned a house for 2 of those years, so we’re in a similar situation.  We really don’t need any cookware or kitchen items, so we left a lot of those out.  We pretty much went through our kitchen, wrote down what could use upgrading or what would be nice to have (food processor, stand mixer), and only registered for those things.  The rest of the registry is china, barware, and keepsake items (toasting flutes, picture frames, candlesticks, etc.).  The china isn’t super fancy (about $60 per set), but it’s a style we would realistically use and maintain if we received it as a gift.  My advice is to consider how you’ll use each item when you shop through the store.  If you think that it will collect dust, don’t register for it.  A small registry isn’t the end of the world. 

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We registered for upgrades, mostly. Better/newer towels as ours are old and worn. Upgrades to appliances, or appliances that I’ve always wanted but never bought. A really expensive cookware set.

We also did a honeymoon registry per the request of FMIL where guests can buy us extras on our honeymoon [movie tickets, special dinners, ect].

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We too both had furnished households when we moved in together over a year ago, and got rid of what wasn’t needed with what both of us had at that time.

We did register for things that needed replacements, or upgrades… and mainly to now have things that were “ours” instead of just his and mine. Things like silverware, dishes, multiple kitchen items, small kitchen appliances, decorative things, etc. We also registered for things we may have always wanted but never purchased.

After my first shower a couple weeks ago, we started a donation box for things that were replaced or not needed anymore.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Because we combined two households, we had a lot of stuff that just didn’t match.  When we registered, we upgraded to matching towels/dishes/sheets etc, and then added in some fun stuff that we didn’t have but wanted (like a devilled egg tray). 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

We created a small registry with a few kitchen upgades (dehydrator, new crockpot, etc.), hosting items (dip trays, cheeseboard, etc.) and nicer decor items (silver keepsake frames, etc.) specifically for the bridal shower since my bridemaids organized a pretty large one for me and guests kept asking them what to get us. We did a small honeyfund registry as well for experience add-ons (no airfare or hotel related gifts) which our guests seem to love! Everyone else has been giving us cash and gift cards. I don’t know if this is their preference or because they know we’ve lived together and we did shop for a lot of new items when we moved into our new house earlier this year.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We lived together, but our kitchen was poorly stocked so we had a lot to register for. We sat down and thought about how we wanted to entertain in the future and what we would need as we built a family and really registered based on that.

Along with new everyday plates and flatware (we were using an old 4 place setting target set from 1999) we registered for le creuset cast iron cookware, things for preparing holiday dinners (roasting pan, carving knives, etc), new knives in general, some new bakeware, entertaining pieces like trays and cake stands, a stand mixer, barware, etc. 

We tried to register for long lasting pieces we would still love in the years to come, though we did register for a few things that won’t last “forever” (new toaster oven, matching towels, etc)

I was fairly excited about the matching towels as ours were a hodge podge of years of buying one towel at a time. 

Where I’m from, people like to give a boxed gift, but where my FI is from, they ususally give cash. We registered mostly so people on my side would be comfortable. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

just_another_dandelion:  I’m a newly married bee. I hope this helps.

DH and I had been living together for 6 years prior to being married on saturday 9/6/14. 

Prior to living together, I had my own apartment and DH was still living at home.

Over the years we of course bought furniture together, so when it came time to do the wedding registry we were more or less in the same place you were. 

We ended up registering for China for 8, and silverware for 8 for hosting holiday dinners/dinner paries. We registered for wine glasses and a few crystal items

We registered for several sets of bedding. For guest rooms, extra pairs of beding blankets, and just updating what we currently have. We registered for a complete bedding set that we each liked, and then one that we both liked, So a set of 3

We are big into camping the outdoors, so we registered for upgraded gear

We registered for new everyday dinner ware and flatware. an upgrade to what we currently use since we had several pieces break or go missing over the years.

We registrered for picture frames and home decor pieces

We registered for towels, pot holders- you can never have to many of each

We regisetreed for placemats, table clothes, table runners, cloth napkins- for everyday and special occasions

we didn’t register for any kitchen gadgets, except for the ninja ultimate kitchen, we already have a kitchen aid and we wanted one device that can do many things

we registered for upgraded cookware and bakeware. From mismatched pots and pans to Calphalon everything

We had a 30 person Destination wedding, and a 45 person local shower/wedding party.We registered at Bed Bath and Beyond and target, and recieved almost all of our registry lists save for a few small items

We also received $500 in gift cards and a little over 2K of cash/checks

I hope this helps

 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

just_another_dandelion:  

We have some nice things already (like my parents had three sets of china so they gave us one). We registered for some nicer things because a lot of the stuff is from Zellers or whatever and miss-matched. We registered for linens, towels, cutlery (so excited for that! – my parents gave that to us as my bridal shower present) and bakeware (we have no casserole dishes or that glass bake ware). Some throws. Really a lot of the stuff we have is cheap stuff used from college days. I also moved around a lot and we just moved from an apartment to townhouse. We also registered for a nice quilt set, since our cover is pretty crappy now. I really view it as a chance to register for things that you really want to upgrade or just haven’t gotten around to purchasing. IMHO I think there is a little bit of a difference between people who have been well-established is their careers for a long time and don’t need/want as much verses couples who have lived together but are not as established (if at all) for what one may register for (neither is right or wrong) because they would have had more of a chance to build up their household. I wouldn’t register for anything you don’t want, though. 

Most items we registered for were under $50. The highest was $400 (only three things above $200 including the $400 item). 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

FI and I will have lived together 3 years by the time we get married. Like you, we have mostly everything we need.

I will be registering for some upgrades- knife set, silverware, better cookware, new bath towels, new bedsheets, a standing mixer, new iron… I’ve always wanted nice wooden clothes hangers. I’ve been trying to think of small inexpensive things but we don’t need any of that stuff. I don’t want to register for decorative stuff because I don’t know what will suite our future house.

Other things that we will need are more expensive so hopefully my family will be able to just give us money or get together to purchase bigger items (grill, lawnmower) or gift cards to Lowe’s or Home Depot to go towards our future house.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

we registered for china, silverware, new pots and pants, 1000ct+ sheets and other premium bedding, nice towels, dish sets, crystal wine and champagne glasses, serveware, a few nice frames to display our wedding pics, baking trays, nice coffee maker and other things like that. we lived together for 2 or 3 yrs before our wedding and could really use the upgrade in our kitchen, bedroom and bathroom items since we mostly had cheap ikea stuff from our early 20s.  The average price registry item was maybe $200+ with the exception of the towels, which I ended up buying myself because everyone sprung for the big ticket items.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

just_another_dandelion:  didn’t have one. I feel awkward making lists of things I want or even implying I want someone to buy me something, so we just skipped it. People were still able to be incredibly generous and gift us and, in the absence of a registry and with a brief, tiny “no boxed gifts at the reception, please” note at the bottom of the website, 90% of people did so with what we actually preferred – cash.

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