Post # 1
Bees! My fiance and I have been arguing quite a bit lately. He is the love of my life and we really want to make it work we just are not sure how. I was wondering if any of you have been through a struggling relationship and invested the time and money to attend counseling. What was the outcome? Did it help at all or did things just stay as they were? Thanks!!!
Post # 3
I think counseling is a great option if both parties are willing participants! Find someone who specilizes in marriage and family issues and be prepared to shop around. People often think that psychologist will be a good fit, when in reality its just like any relationship. You have to date around to find the right one!
Post # 4
We have not invested in counselling, but we did buy a book to help improve our communication. We read a chapter, discuss how to integrate it best into our lives, and communication, and just keep talking. I don’t know how much a counsellor would have helped us in comparison, but I think we have definitely been improving our communication with each other over the last month.
All You Need Is Love and Other Lies About Marriage
I know the title might sound offensive to some people, but I think there are a lot of very important points brought up. Got is on Amazon on kindle so we could both read it at the same time. It’s a good book, sometimes the points are a little over-emphasized, but a long of the information is very good.
Post # 5
Also look at Dr. John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Excellent book!
Post # 6
We started seeing a therapist after we took a break and got back together and it helped us SO much! Like you we loved each other very much but were getting stuck in bad patterns with our communication. She is trained in Gottmans princples and it has saved our relationship. On the other side of the coin my ex husband and I tried therapy and it didn’t help at all. The therapist was a different one so like others have said finding the right therapist and both of you being willing to work at it are big things! Good luck!