- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
Hello Bees 🙂
Me and my FI have been engaged for almost 3 years. Last September I went and put down a down payment on our venue that at the time we could have afforded but then him and his fathers job moved to Oklahoma and then at the beginning of the year his mother lost her job. So now I am the only one (who is contributing to the wedding) with a job. We tried talking to our original venue about getting the down payment back and thats not happening, but they did say we could get married on a Thursday or Sunday but thats not at all what I want so I would rather loose the down payment than do one of those options. We just can’t afford a 10,000 plus wedding anymore so now we have looked at different options and have practically cut the cost in half.
Here’s my problem….I can’t get his mother and father off my chest. They keep telling me to just get married on the Thurday or Sunday and be done with it or make little remarks about if I had that down payment back I could do this or this with it. The reason I don’t want to get married on one of those days is because I want my guests to be able to enjoy our day with us and not have to leave early to go to bed because they have work the next morning. This is a big day for us (me especially because I thought this would never be happening). It’s really starting to drive me crazy because it’s becoming like a everytime I see them kind of thing where they make these remarks. We moved in with his grandma back in January when his grandpa died because she didn’t want to be alone and now she has started in saying we need to hurry and get married because we’re living in sin and she is condoning it. (Shes really one of those only religious on Sundays people) & she is saying she doesnt see spending all this money on a wedding. She keeps referring to how she only spent 2000 on his mother and fathers wedding. That was 22 years ago, now a days things are way more expensive.
With all of there snippy and sarcastic remarks its making me really rethink this whole situation and go to the court house and not tell them and its making me not want to be around them at all. I have started to hate going to eat as a family with all of them because it is literally all revolved around trying to tell me and the FI what to do. What would you bees do? I feel like I am drowning here.