Post # 1
Our guest list is growing along with my stress level!
I really don’t want to invite people that we aren’t close to! Sounds simple but guilt from family and friends is making me miserable!
This post is just a vent. 🙂
Post # 3
I think almost everybody goes through that. I can’t even tell you how many friends of my parents invites were passed to me like ‘oh, they won’t come anyway’… right, but what if they do??
Post # 4
Right! Are you inviting people that you have fallen out of touch with? Like college friends who have moved away?
Post # 5
I hear you! FI and I made a rule that no one was invited who wasn’t close to at least one of us. This made it a little easier, since we were presenting it as joint decision. But it’s still tough. I ended up caving just once – one of my mom’s close friends who I’ve never really gotten to know. My mom swore that not inviting her would irreparably damage their relationship. Plus, it’s at my mom’s house. So we gave in on that one. But no others! It helps that because it’s a home wedding, we simply CAN’T have more than 70 or so people, and right now we’re at 78.
Try to let go of the guilt. It is TOTALLY REASONABLE to keep it to people you care about. Marrying someone is one of the most personal, intimate things you can do, and I don’t want people there for whom it’s like watching a baseball game or a TV show.