Post # 1
Hey ya’ll, so my fiance and I are having a courthouse wedding in the spring and are only having our immediate families there since it will be in Colorado and most of our family and friends are on the East and West coasts. We are having a simple dinner after with just family. My mom is pushing me to send engagement announcements to our extended family, since I have over 38 first cousins and they’re all much older and we all only see each other once every 5 years. My fiance also has a large extended family that will not be invited either.. Is there a way to word it that doesn’t come off rude? I don’t mind putting down our registry, since a lot of my family has already been asking what we need. But I don’t want them to be upset we aren’t inviting them. Also, all of the ones I’ve seen online look an awful lot like Save the Dates no matter how they’re worded. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thanks so much!
Post # 3
Someone can correct me here but I’m pretty sure that etiquette indicates that you shouldn’t be sending wedding related correspondence to people that aren’t invited to the ceremony/reception.
My first thought is that you should only be sending out wedding annoucements.
Post # 4
I would send out wedding announcements after the ceremony. It feels way too formal to send out engagement announcements for a courthouse wedding and comes off as a little money hungry to me. We didn’t send out engagement announcements and we’re having a whole shebang wedding.
Post # 5
@Mrs.Mittens: I agree.
Send out wedding announcements right after the wedding. If you send them out before people will be expecting (and rightfully so) an invitation to a wedding and you will be answering an unending amount of questions.
Post # 6
No you only need send out a wedding annoucement after the wedding. I agree an engagement annoucement without a follow up invitation does come off as gift grab.
Post # 7
I am agreeing with the PPs, no matter how it is worded now they will be excepting an invite to the wedding, and you should send out an announcement AFTER the wedding.
Post # 8
@jmcgee443: Engagement announcement? No, I don’t think a formal one is needed. However, you all could take a few pics in front of the tree, with fiance and a few with the ring and make a Christmas card. This will be a fun cute way to let the family know you are engaged.I would send a cute wedding announcement after the wedding also.