(Closed) Cousin Facebooks Me to Say She’s Bringing Another Kid With!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

I would just let it go. While it is rude of her to add on a guest, I can see why she’d want to bring her step daughter, as she is part of her family. Plus, she doesn’t know how you feel about children coming to the wedding because you already invited her child.

Post # 5
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129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010 - Stage 6 Steiner Studios

That is annoying when a family member invites uninvited kids. I wouldn’t say anything since to your cousin she is including her family v. her son v. his daughter. Could you can say, “we’re not having any kids at our wedding so your kids won’t have anyone to play with…why don’t you hire a babysitter and make it a grown-up night and we can have fun w/o the kids!” Would she go for that??

Post # 6
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1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I can understand how you’d be upset, but I see her side. Even though the facebook part isn’t cool, its sort of rude to invite one of their children, but not the other. She may not technically be your cousin’s child, but she is her stepdaughter. That makes the girl family. I say let her bring her. Its not like you have any problem with the child other than that right?

Post # 7
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

like the others said here, i can totally understand both sides but i do lean towards your cousin.  when she married her husband she also took on the role as stepmother to her husbands son so he is family also.  im guessing they have spent alot of time and energy in trying to combine the families so to exclude him from the invite must have been upsetting to her

of course, your cousin should have handled it better and that is not to post something on facebook but to contact you directly

as far as your concerns to having kids in a art gallery – you had already invited one child at least to the reception so hopefully an extra child wont be any problems

 

Post # 8
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2144 posts
Buzzing bee

Does he get weekend visitation with the daughter? It’s possible that it might be his weekend with her and that could be why, but idk. I also see both sides. It’s annoying, but if you can let it go, that’s probably the best option.

Post # 9
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440 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It’s always annoying to get a random plus one, but as you invited her son it’s hard to say she can’t bring the stepdaughter… @JoesWifey above has a very valid point, maybe it’s their weekend to have her and they can’t not bring her, or mayb they think it will be nice for her to get to know your family more…

We’ve had two univited plus ones from our family, and as much as the rudeness angers me, our decision was that it’s better to take the high road and spend the extra few bucks for their meals than to potentially alienate our family (because you could creating bad blood with more than just the person who rudely assumed it was ok to bring an uninvited plus one).

Post # 10
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2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with previous posters. It stinks that she used Facebook as a means to communicate with you but she probably didn’t think it’s be an issue since her son was already invited. I mean its not like you put on her invite “you, your husband and i guess your son but i really dont want kids there”. For all she knows, kids will be there. I know it may be irritating but if you can let it go, let it… I’d pick and choose battles wisely

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