Cousin Gave Her Regifted Bridal Shower as My Wedding Present

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Ouch. That is really awful! It is the deliberate slap in the face of the regift by someone obsessed with material possessions that stings, not the actual pitcher. Enjoy it in good health and try not to let it make you bitter. I’d quietly back away from her and leave out the dig in the Thank You note. Maybe one of these days she’ll grow up and apologize; no reason to give her mud to sling at you in the meantime.

Post # 4
749 posts
Busy bee

@RCH1286:  Wow, how rude!  That’s ridiculous.  I’ve heard of regifting, but regifting to the person that gave it to you in the first place….just wow.  

That said, I myself wouldn’t say anything along the lines of your note – it seems petty and stooping to her level.  Don’t give her the satisfaction.  In fact…I might just “forget” to send a thank-you at all!     😉

Post # 5
9696 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@RCH1286:  I’ve heard of people regifting, but not back to the person who originally gave it to them. She gave you a cheque too though, so I wouldn’t worry about it too much. It’s not like it was your only present.

It is possible that she liked your gift so much, she bought you the same thing for your wedding (unlikely, but possible). Or maybe it was her way of telling you that she didn’t like your gift. I’m not sure, but it’s not worth a fight.

Post # 6
7107 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Money can’t buy class.

Post # 7
2692 posts
Sugar bee

Wow!  What she did was really rude.  I wouldn’t engage her by mentioning it in the thank-you note, though.  Just leave a vague message thanking her for her generous gift and move on.  Take the high road and let her reap what she has sown.

Post # 9
778 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Ughhh what a jerk! I’d take the high road. Right a thank you card (no need to make it personal) and just be done with her. Ugh.

Post # 10
9696 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@RCH1286:  I might do it a little more passive aggressively (which I usually don’t advocate) so you don’t completely destroy a family relationship. I might say something like, “It was so thoughtful of you to get me such a beautiful pitcher. Now we have matching ones!”

Then ask to see hers next time you are over 😛

Post # 11
2070 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Honestly, I would probably just laugh something like this off and let it go. Harbouring resentment is only going to hurt you. It was thoughtless and rude of her… but it sounds like she’s thoughtless and rude. so no surprise there.

Post # 12
1181 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2002

@RCH1286:  I’m just in shock!  How incredibly rude of her! :(. I’m so sorry you have to deal with her drama during your honeymoon.  

Post # 14
2535 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

What a spoiled b*tch.

I think I’d just thank her for the money and leave it at that. Can you return the pitcher to where you bought it? Might as well get some money from that, too. Or sell it on ebay or something.
I agree with PP – don’t harbor the resentment, just try to laugh it off and make the best of it (I mean… it’s a good story for “weirdest wedding present you got”)

Oh… and I’d really never bother to contact her again.
Decline every invite she sends you from now on – because who needs that crap in their lives?

Post # 15
10 posts

@RCH1286:  WOW. That is seriously one of the most disrespectful, rudest thing I’ve ever heard  of… To think that your own blood would do that to you.. I’m so sorry about your unbearable cousin M, but it seems to me she’s jealous and has some bad self esteem problems that she has to take it out on you! 

Nonetheless, I really like the “Thank You (NOT!!)” note idea lol! Brilliant!!! Don’t sweat it. This will all be a good laugh later on!!


Post # 16
4757 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@RCH1286:  WOW!! I’m not sure what I’d do but maybe in my thank you card I’d say something along the lines of “Great taste! Now we have matching!”. 

This reminds me of the scene in Old School when Frank regifts the breadmaker. It’s so ridiculous that its hilarious, I’d send the card and spend alot of time laughing about this.

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