Post # 1
My cousin and I are rather close cousins. Fi and I have so many mixed emotions tonight after she called to tell me she is engaged! I am so happy for her! yet I am worried that with our wedding a little less that a year away her wedding will swallow up our big day. They don’t plan on getting married until at least a year after ours. Another part of me is so excited to have a fellow family member going through the same things I am with planning. to the other bees with similar situations what has been your experiance with this? I am so excited and yet so worried.
Post # 3
If her wedding is two years away, there is no way she will take up the excitement from your wedding.
Post # 4
Why would her wedding A YEAR AFTER YOURS take anything away from yours?
There was a post on here asking how close was too close to “stack” family weddings…. and the general concensus was ONE MONTH was acceptable “closeness” without encroaching on someone else’s event.
Post # 5
Trust me, it’ll be awesome!! The best thing is having someone who is going through the same thing as you–you get to rant, rave, laugh, and share your ideas with someone who is just as excited about weddings as your are!! Good luck!
Post # 6
She is getting married a YEAR after you… just be happy for her.
Post # 7
It’s not going to take away from yours unless you let it and it seems like you might be heading that way….just be happy for her
Post # 8
I think you’re over thinking… I’m that cousin…
Cousin 1, engaged last spring, getting married this August 18
Sister of Cousin 1 (Cousin 2), engaged this February, getting married NEXT August 24
Cousin 3 (me!), engaged this March, getting married NEXT July 6
We are all just making sure to give each other our own glory at showers, bachelorettes, planning days, dress shopping, etc…
Post # 9
What are you worried about specifically?
Post # 10
Her wedding is at least a year after yours… I’m sorry but there is NO reason you should be upset. That’s what happens when cousins about the same age… graduate highschool and college around the same time, have big landmark birthdays around the same time, and *GASP* they get married around the same time. Guess what? you may even have children aroudn the same time! I think you’re overreacting Be happy for her and ENJOY having someone to talk to about this! It’ll give you another thing to bond over.
Post # 11
… Sorry if that post came off cranky.. I’m not having a great day, didn’t mean to funnel my frustration towards you.. But like I said use this as a way to bond with your cousin, you’ll have so much more to talk about now 😀
Post # 12
Her wedding is a full year after yours so I think it will even come close to overtaking your big day. I think you are worrying for no reason. Just be happy for her and now you have someone you can share ideas with, rant and vent to and bounce ideas off of. Plus she will be looking for the valuable advice you’ll have (for vendors, favors, etc).
Post # 13
I am confused. How will her wedding overshadow yours if it’s more than a year later? Would it be better if she get married before earlier?
Post # 14
Even if your weddings were a month apart— or even a week— why on earth would you feel like someone else’s wedding would “swallow up” your big day?
Even if your cousin is rich and wants to have an elaborate, flashy, over-the-top wedding, your overlapping guests will know the difference between the two of you; they will know that you each have your own personal styles, tastes and budgets, and they will enjoy and appreciate your wedding as its own event, and your cousin’s as its own event.
Why do so many brides-to-be get so upset because someone else wants to get married too? Don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Don’t compare your wedding to anyone else. Enjoy putting on your own wedding and enjoy being a guest at your cousin’s.
ETA: the only times I have ever compared weddings were when either someone (always a guest) acted up at the reception, when it was done so cheaply as to be tacky (sticking to a budget is fine— giving a per-head check for your reception dinner is not), or when the bride went completely batsh** bridezilla crazy. Otherwise, I can honestly say that my friends’ backyard wedding at their house in Florida was not better than or worse than my friends’ fancy castle wedding in the English countryside— they were both lovely, wonderful, happy days and special in my heart, and always will be.
Post # 15
I honestly do not get this “overshadowing” stuff.
You are not the only one in the world getting married. Your wedding will be unique because YOU and YOUR FI are getting married. if you cousin wanted to get married the next day, what would be the problem?
Post # 16
When my husband and I got married, two more cousins got married within 10 weeks of us. A year is MORE than enough time, stop worrying about it.