Post # 1
My fiance and I are not religious people. We are having our ceremony and reception in the same location. I really would like my cousin to officiate our wedding. It would mean more to me to have someone close to me do it than to Google wedding officients in my area and picking one out of thin air. I have asked him if he would get ordained online and he is all for it. I have told my mom about my wish to have my cousin do this for us and she is really against it. She is worried that it won’t be legal because he is doing this online and she really wants it to be officiated by someone who has been doing it for a long time. I live in Maryland. Has anyone else had a friend or family member do this for their wedding? If so, could you please give me some advice on talking my mom into it and making her feel more comfortable with my decision?
Post # 3
@smrlovingrl: We had one of our friends get ordained and marry us. It is just as valid as having someone who has been doing it for a long time. My parents were pretty put off by it at first, but after explaining our reasons for wanting him to marry us (our reasons were similar to yours), and letting them read what he would be saying they were a little more on board. It’s been almost two months since our wedding and my dad is still raving about what a great job he did.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
I live in MD. We’re having a friend officiate for pretty much the same reasons and it’s very simple. We already have our marriage license (from Baltimore City, you get it from the county you’re getting married in) and all the officiant has to do is fill out their name, what body ordained them, and when and where you got married. THey don’t even have to show the certificate of ordination, and the clerks’s office doesn’t actually check if they’re ordained. Technically you could make it up and never actually get ordained. I don’t recommend doing that, but just saying, they don’t even check. Our friend went through the Universal Life Church and the clerk of the court’s office assured me that they accept them. (I called/stopped in multiple times to ask several different people, including a supervisor. I may be a touch obsessive. ) The legal part is surprisingly easy.
As far as your mom, my mom had the same concerns. I think she’s still a little unsure, but whatever, it’s our wedding/marriage. You might want to check the websites of some officiants or call around and see how they are ordained. For most non-church-based officiants I would imagine that they are also ordained through the ULC or some similar. If it’s good enough for a “professional” officiant it should be good enough for your cousin. Anyway, Baltimore City definitely accepts ULC, if that helps you at all.