(Closed) Cousin picked same wedding date

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would you be upset if a very close relative picked the same wedding date?
    Yes : (100 votes)
    93 %
    No : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Other, explain : (4 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    84 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    If its the same date then yes I would be upset, if its in the same month I wouldn’t, only because of the situation with her fiances deployment.  Hope that helps!

    Post # 4
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Um… the exact same date?! Yes I would be upset. That puts a lot of stress on your guests yes? Which wedding to go to. Have they already started puting down deposits and such? Maybe see if this can be changed.

    If it’s the same month, I wouldn’t stress! No big deal.

    Post # 5
    14186 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    yes, it’s kinda crappy. I would be upset. I say she should have at least consulted you and been like, "omg, i’m so sorry, but this is the only day that works, i hope you understand"

    But, I also understand her situation in which her fiance is deploying b/c been there done that. Too bad she couldn’t have swung a different weekend. The military won’t just give you time off whenever you want it unfortunately, so maybe this was the only weekend they’d let him have? There’s a LOT going on. 

    Regardless, I think she should have talked to you about it. I would have felt AWFUL picking the same day/time frame as a friend/family member when my Fiance got deployed. I still dont’ think I could have done it!!!!

    Post # 6
    2820 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I picked "yes" because if it was the exact same date then yes, I’d be upset. If it’s just in the same month, though, I wouldn’t worry about it. If her fiance might be deployed, it’s a valid concern.

    Post # 7
    1508 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Do you both live in the same town? Could one wedding be on Friday and the other on Saturday?

    Post # 8
    45 posts
    • Wedding: May 2009

    So, is it the same weekend or month?

    Post # 10
    2641 posts
    Sugar bee

    Wow!  That’s awful.  OK, so maybe she can move it up a week, which is a bit better.  But she still gets her wedding first, adn can’t make it to yours.  And just out of curiosity, is that really the only time they have to get married?  If she can move it up a week, can she move it back a week, so that she will still be in town for your wedding?

    If she doesn’t have another option, have you ever considered a double wedding?

    Post # 11
    997 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel

    I would be upset; it puts your guests in a difficult position.  I hope she is able to move it up a week as you said. Best of luck!

    Post # 12
    231 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Maybe they’ll elope so it won’t cause any conflicts with your relatives being torn between which wedding to attend!

    Post # 14
    782 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    Oh yikes! That’s a hard spot to be in. Hopefully she’ll get her act together and realize that she may need to find another date.

    Post # 15
    278 posts
    Helper bee

    Did you have a chosen venue she absolutely loved and that was the only day available that month?

    I think it makes it hard on a lot of guests too, especially family.  Is it around the same time of day?  How does she expect family members to pick which wedding to go to?

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