Post # 1
Should I be upset that my cousin, which is more like a little sister, picked the same wedding date?
My Fiance and I have had this date picked out for close to six months and just last week she says that she’s moved her wedding date up to August 2010 from November 2010 b/c her Fiance may be getting deployed.
Post # 3
If its the same date then yes I would be upset, if its in the same month I wouldn’t, only because of the situation with her fiances deployment. Hope that helps!
Post # 4
Um… the exact same date?! Yes I would be upset. That puts a lot of stress on your guests yes? Which wedding to go to. Have they already started puting down deposits and such? Maybe see if this can be changed.
If it’s the same month, I wouldn’t stress! No big deal.
Post # 5
yes, it’s kinda crappy. I would be upset. I say she should have at least consulted you and been like, "omg, i’m so sorry, but this is the only day that works, i hope you understand"
But, I also understand her situation in which her fiance is deploying b/c been there done that. Too bad she couldn’t have swung a different weekend. The military won’t just give you time off whenever you want it unfortunately, so maybe this was the only weekend they’d let him have? There’s a LOT going on.
Regardless, I think she should have talked to you about it. I would have felt AWFUL picking the same day/time frame as a friend/family member when my Fiance got deployed. I still dont’ think I could have done it!!!!
Post # 6
I picked "yes" because if it was the exact same date then yes, I’d be upset. If it’s just in the same month, though, I wouldn’t worry about it. If her fiance might be deployed, it’s a valid concern.
Post # 7
Do you both live in the same town? Could one wedding be on Friday and the other on Saturday?
Post # 8
So, is it the same weekend or month?
Post # 9
She WAS my Maid/Matron of Honor – she knew the date, but it happened to slip her mind. My Fiance is deployed now in Afghanistan, so I totally understand moving it up.
But seriously – the same day? When she told me my Fiance happened to call – so he was a little PO’d and he’s is very matter of fact and said to her seriously – "out of 52 weeks in the year that was the only day available?"
So she is talking about moving it up a week but unfortunately she won’t be able to be my Maid/Matron of Honor and she won’t be able to attend my wedding b/c she’ll be on her honeymoon, and the icing on the cake – she ended it by saying "So can I see your wedding dress?"
I just have to laugh, right?
Post # 10
Wow! That’s awful. OK, so maybe she can move it up a week, which is a bit better. But she still gets her wedding first, adn can’t make it to yours. And just out of curiosity, is that really the only time they have to get married? If she can move it up a week, can she move it back a week, so that she will still be in town for your wedding?
If she doesn’t have another option, have you ever considered a double wedding?
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
I would be upset; it puts your guests in a difficult position. I hope she is able to move it up a week as you said. Best of luck!
Post # 12
Maybe they’ll elope so it won’t cause any conflicts with your relatives being torn between which wedding to attend!
Post # 13
It’s the only date available b/c she wants a specific reception location, and supposedly for summer weddings 8/7 and 8/14 are the only Saturday’s available in 2010.
I mentioned having a double wedding – she said I don’t think that will work b/c I don’t want to get married in SC.
@poli2b – they’ve been engaged for a week now and are in the beginning stages of planning – my Fiance and I are the ones that have put deposits down.
(Not to be mean – this is her 2nd engagement in 18 months-different guys)
Post # 14
Oh yikes! That’s a hard spot to be in. Hopefully she’ll get her act together and realize that she may need to find another date.
Post # 15
Did you have a chosen venue she absolutely loved and that was the only day available that month?
I think it makes it hard on a lot of guests too, especially family. Is it around the same time of day? How does she expect family members to pick which wedding to go to?
Post # 16
Weddings would be same date same time different states.