- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
I’m a newbee here, although I’ve been reading and lurking for a while, lol! My Fiance and I have been together for 8 years now and we’re getting married in June 2013, we got engaged this Christmas just past :). Sorry that my first post is a long rant but I’m worried 🙁
My Fi and I are paying for our wedding completely by ourselves, and we have been able to set quite a large budget thanks to us both having very well paid jobs. We have always worked really hard for what we have and put ourselves through university rather than asking for help/loans. We have been through a lot of tough times to get to where we are and several years ago I had a horrible accident and we were told I would be in a wheelchair for life. To cut a long story short, I am now able to walk again, although my wonderful FI stood by me and was my carer for me all the way through. He was a hero. Sorry, just wanted to give a bit of back story so that I don’t come across as a spoilt Daddy’s princess or anything!
Now my cousin and I have never seen eye to eye, but our family are very close so I always get on with her for everyone elses sake and to keep the peace and I have honestly never said anything nasty to her at all. This weekend just gone FI and I had a BBQ for all our family, so they could get to know each other better before our wedding. My cousin came and (unusually) behaved really well and was really nice. Then today my sister-in-law tells me to read my cousin’s facebook post. She had put on there that she had to “go to my dirty capitalist b1tch cousin’s BBQ at the weekend. They disgust me, her and her FI, trashing the earth with their jetsetting, upper-class, pretentiousness . I die a little everytime I have to speak to them.”
I am so angry about this!!!! To start with we are not at all pretentious. She is obsessed with her “calling” to save the earth which seems to involve dropping out of university to live in a tent in her parent’s garden, scrounging from them as she can’t bear to conform to the “capitalist ideology” and get a job. She has been unemployed for three years now and she’s 23, surely she should know better! She just lives off other people, she is so damn lazy!!! Grrrrrr!!!! And how dare she say that about us!!!! What gives her the right to be so damn self-righteous?!?
My SIL also told me that cousin is planning to throw red dye over me just before I walk down the aisle in my beautiful pale ivory dress as she feels it will show the “blood and slave labour that went into making it.” My dress was handmade in England, there was no sweatshop labour involved. Apparently she is also planning on trying to cause as much of a scene as possible. I am really worried about this and want to uninvite her, I have spoken to my Mum, Nan and Aunt about this as has SIL but they all think I’m over-reacting and being a bridezilla as cousin is very good at playing the victim. They have even suggested I apologise to her for upsetting her!!!! No way am I apologising!!!
Sorry but really needed to vent, FI is working a long day today so I haven’t been able to speak to him about it yet, although I know he’d go mad. What should I do? Am I being a bridezilla? I don’t think I am but my family (apart from SIL) seem convinced that I’ve behaved badly. Thanks for reading x