Cousin Question

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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6279 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@KonaGirl14:  Last summer we were invited to FI’s cousin’s wedding.  There were probably 250 people there.

We are getting married this year, this cousin and wife are not on our guest list.  Our list is only 130 people. 

If you want to go to the wedding, go to the wedding.  Everyone’s guests lists and budgets are different.  Don’t worry about it.

DW normally have a smaller guest list. If someone asks, just say it is DW with a limited guest list.

Post # 5
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254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Motor museum

I would be a bit put oi fine I were your cousin. Perhaps have a chat with her?

Post # 6
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254 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Motor museum

Put out I mean 

Post # 7
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867 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

@KonaGirl14: Is the cousin who is getting married invited to your wedding? I’d feel kind of bad about going to her wedding and not giving her an invitation to mine, IMO that’s pretty rude. I mean if you don’t feel your cousin should get an invite to your wedding why should you go to hers? 

Sorry but I feel the best way to avoid drama is to stay at home. If you go to the wedding your cousin will expect an invitation to yours and you’re going to look really bad when you don’t give her one. I doubt many of your cousins will care that they aren’t invited, but not inviting your cousin to your wedding after you attended hers is the kind of thing families gossip about. 

Post # 9
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6510 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Go to the wedding. No one should expect an invitation to your wedding just because you went to theirs. We invited people to ours even though we weren’t invited to their wedding because we had a much larger guest list and budget and they had smaller more intimate events.

The whole “they invited me, I need to invite them” is so silly. Everyone has a different budget and capacity at their venue. As long as you aren’t picking and choosing cousins and you are only inviting aunts and uncles it is okay for you to go to her wedding and not invite her to yours.

ETA: I would have been sad if someone turned down my invite just because they weren’t able to invite me to their wedding. 

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I would go! If anyone asks about your wedding just tell them it’s going to be a very small DW. I don’t think you have to invite people just because they invited you. Don’t skip it just because that cousin isn’t invited. I’d only skip it if you had picked and chose cousins and that one didn’t make the cut 🙂

Post # 11
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226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Go to the wedding. And you still don’t need to invite her. Everyone will understand. Like PP said different weddings amd different budgets. I would too be crushed if someone couldn’t come to my wedding 🙁

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