Post # 1
Hi Bee’s. My wedding is in May and I asked my stepmom and two girl cousins who all have beautiful voices (better than American Idol singers) to sing at my wedding. The thing is I was hoping they would do recognizable music but no they want to sing all christian music. They are christian’s and that is fine but I am not and in no way is the wedding geared towards religion. Not that I have anything against christian music I just did not want to turn my wedding reception into a church service. However that is not the only problem. The one cousin who informed me she is now bringing a date who is not her boyfriend or anyone she is dating wants to sing a song at my wedding with this guy! I have never met this guy and I have no idea who he is. I think it might be a little weird to have him sing at a place of honor at my wedding. I think the song she wants to do is way too churchy and does not belong at a reception with drinking and dancing and the like. She is also the cousin who likes to steal the spotlight and I am a little concerned by this as well. Just wondering what you guys thought. The song she wants to do is The Prayer by Josh Groban. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FK5VulNn3so
Post # 3
i dont see the difference between her singing a duet with someone she trusts/knows they are gifted or where people hire strangers/musicians for their weddings – its nice you want her to sing but the “honor” isnt life changing for her
im not religous but i like the song (although Celine butchers it and her version is long) – maybe you can ask her for some options and pick the one you like
Post # 4
It’s Your wedding, and I think You get to say what music is played/sung at your wedding! Think about what message you want to convey to yourself, your partner, and your guests – the sentiments that You want to be the footprint of how you start your life together. It’s a sweet gesture that your family wants to bring something personal to the ceremony, but bottom line is it’s your decision to make. My two cents!
Post # 5
I would thank her so much for the offer, then give her a list of songs that I would like her to choose from. You do not have to have a Christian song just because that is her belief. There are lots of other lovely songs that should not be offensive for her to sing.
If she wanted to sing a duet with this guy, she should have asked you first. You are under no obligation to invite him.
Post # 6
You are obviously uncomfortable about this whole thing (with good reason, imo), so I would suggest going over everything with them and telling them exactly what you’re wanting.