- 6 years ago
A little background:
I’m not that close to my cousin but we see each other once a month at family get togethers. We never really had an issue with each other but things changed when I got engaged. I really didn’t feel that she was happy for me and she never congratulated me once. Just a few months after I announced my engagement, my cousin also got engaged. Recently Fiance and I booked a venue for April of next year and told some family members about it. Just a few weeks later, my cousin booked her venue for May–interestingly enough, she booked the same venue that Fiance and I wanted so badly but it didn’t work with our budget. She knew we had looked at the venue and I just find it really odd that she booked it because she is the same person who commented to another family member that it was much too expensive and that we shouldn’t waste our money on it.
Anyway, I KNOW I shouldn’t care what my cousin is doing and that she can have her own life while I live mine as well. I know I only get one day and that just because I’m planning my wedding it doesn’t mean that she can’t do the same. But to me it REALLY feels like she is trying to upstage me or something. Is it really bad that I feel this way? I mean, I try really hard not to tell anyone details about the wedding but eventually things come out and I just know my cousin will find ways to have the better wedding/dress/etc.
Am I being childish or is she? Maybe we both are? I don’t know I just need some straight up honest advice!