Cousin was a complete BRIDEZILLA… should I invite her to mine???

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Wowee! That’s a lot to read. Godo luck.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think you need to let go of some of this anger. Yes, it sucks how she behaved, but that’s a reflection on her, not you. Just invite her to the wedding along with the rest of the family. Don’t make her a bridesmaid, and certainly don’t worry about what kind of gift she will get you. It’s just not worth it. She showed you her true colors during her wedding, and now you can just treat her as a distant family member and be cordial when you see her, nothing more. Unless she figures out that she caused all these problems, I don’t see a need to continue a close relationship with her.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Trilldayz: I understand your feelings and I’d personally write her off. Ain’t no one got time for that fakeness. <3

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

if you invite her as a guest, don’t expect her to gift a gift for the equivalent of all you paid in being her BM.  it is up to you if you wish to invite her or not.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I didn’t read it all but it sounds like you have some anger issues. To answer the question in your subject: If you are inviting all aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. then yes, you should invite her. If you are selectively inviting family members, it’s probably best you don’t invite her as you don’t seem to have your anger under control.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Trilldayz:  UM NO. do not invite her. She obviously doesn’t care about your feelings by being a bridezilla and not inviting you to the shower and then lieing about it!! Just because you have mutual friends does NOT mean you have to continue to take her abuse and squash it.

Honestly if she went to your wedding i would not be surprised if she made it all about her.. she sounds like an attention seeker.. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

If it would have caused family drama to drop out of her wedding, won’t it cause even more if you don’t invite her? You won’t even notice she’s there. It’s not worth the drama it would cause. Obviously if you are having a small wedding and not inviting your entire family, then you have cause to leave her out. But don’t make a point of not inviting her if you are inviting the rest of the family. That makes you seem petty.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

That was a lot to digest. I personally wouldn’t invite her. Only invite and celebrate your wedding day with people you truly want there Is my rule of thumb.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wouldnt invite her, i don’t care if it’s ettiquette or whatever, she was a huge bitch… what if she starts some drama at YOUR wedding.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I wouldn’t invite her unless you want her to cause you more drama and heartache. It would be different if she had apologized or tried to see things from your POV.

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