Cousins Invited to Wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

only invite who you want.  if it is a small wedding, people will understand that cuts had to be made.

invite the ones you are close to, not the ones you only see every 3 years.

 

Post # 4
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1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Invite whoever you want. I wasn’t invited to all my first cousin’s weddings. I’m inviting all my first cousins, but almost none of their children.

Post # 5
Hostess
22135 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

How many cousins are we talking? I totally understand space constaints, but I also know that picking and choosing which of your first cousins opens the door to hurt feelings, most likely.

Post # 6
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2642 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Gemstone:  Agreed.  I think this would depend on your family dynamic.  You don’t want to cause any hurt feelings or unnecessary drama.  Where you invited to the weddings of those that are married?

Either way though, you do not have to invite their children.

Post # 7
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11717 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

In my family, if you invite one cousin, you have to invite them all.  It really matters how your family would react to this.  You could also make it adults-only and not invite any of their kids.

Post # 8
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2325 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am inviting one cousin from my mother’s side….the only one I see on a semi-regular basis, the only one Im friends with on Facebook. The others from my mum’s side I never see and they probably wouldn’t recognise me if I passed them in the street and the ones on my father’s side I see at funerals and other random times. 

I think it is up to you which cousins you invite, but if your family has a lot of “drama” then I would avoid inviting cousins who are in contact with other cousins who are not invited. Hope that makes sense!

Post # 9
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128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@ssbridenc2014:  Whatever you decide I would suggest that you don’t use the “we don’t really talk, so of course they won’t come to my wedding” method of finalizing your guest list. Because they will come (or at least RSVP yes). I had family I don’t even know invite themselves. (I put the kabosh on that.) But weddings bring out the crazy in people and they decide they will attend perfect stranger’s weddings. I still think it’s weird.

Good luck!

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