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posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@sdlawrence:  What do you mean “posted”. Did save the dates go out for either? Or just put up on facebook? It sounds like the four of you (You, your partner, and parents) need to sit and discuss the situation.

Post # 4
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6274 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

[content moderated for name calling]

Post # 5
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4513 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Personally, I wouldn’t change it. You chose it first and made everyone aware of that. I think if you give in you’re setting a precedent for them to walk all over you in the future. I don’t play these games of giving in to people who threaten to boycott my wedding for silly reasons. I’ve had my own share of family drama and simply told people, “fine, don’t come.”

 

What does your SO think about the situation? That you should change dates?

Post # 6
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280 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Sorry bit confused, did your cousin already set their date before you did? If so then you should probably change yours.

Post # 7
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t understand who wants who change what date and who is mad at who’s mother. You had your date set first and the cousin is saying you didn’t and wants you to change it?

Post # 9
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6274 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@PetalFace:  

Troll: One who posts a deliberately provocative message to a newsgroup or message board with the intention of causing maximum disruption and argument for their own amusement.
 

Post # 10
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

Ladies, can I please remind you that saying someone is a “troll”, someone is “trolling”, and the OP “trolled” everyone is a violation of the TOS and that we should stop doing so. If you feel that some a poster is, then please flag the thread and leave it for an admin or mod to make the determination. It may be a normal user who is going under an anonymous name or it really can be a first-time poster who found our site as a way to ask about this situation. Thank you!

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Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@sdlawrence:  What do you mean by they ‘posted’ the date?  I found rour OP to be difficult to read, I think you’ll get more helpful advice if people understood what you’re saying better.

Post # 15
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2720 posts
Sugar bee

I also found your OP difficult to read but from what I gather, this is what I would do: set my date for two weeks before hers! Ha! And you have 9 months, not much is probably set yet.

Post # 16
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484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ajillity81:  I saw you posted to my reply but was unable to read the post…. did you have an issue with something I had replied? I’m confused

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