Cousin's wedding – should I go?

posted 3 years ago in Family
  • poll: Should I go?
    You should go if you can afford it. : (25 votes)
    50 %
    You don't have to go, regardless of if you can afford it. : (25 votes)
    50 %
  • Post # 3
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    If you don’t want to go, don’t go.

    Post # 4
    2938 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    don’t stress yourself out over it. you’re not obligated to go their wedding just because they’re invited to yours and vice versa.

    Post # 5
    871 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @emmalyn:  I would just send a gift and nice card that says you are sorry you couldn’t make it but that you hope to see them soon or something. If you aren’t particularly close I son’t think they’ll be heartbroken and you don’t have to stress. 

    Post # 6
    2340 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 1987

    Go to the wedding.  Enjoy the celebration.  It’s a chance to get to know your cousin and his wife a little better. 

    To be invited to a wedding is a great honour.  Its a great shame if you can’t be bothered to go.

    Post # 7
    860 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I am not a fan of the whole tit for tat thing with weddings. 

    If you want to attend a wedding then by all means attend.

    If you do not want to attend a weddding (cost, travel, time off from work, etc) then don’t go…..

    I also do not feel that you need to explain why you cannot attend…….

    Post # 8
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2005

    @emmalyn:  You are totally not obligated to go to their wedding and I’m sure that they would understand if you cannot make it.

    Traveling is not fun and that much travel stinks but at the same time if might be worth it. is there any part of you that would regret not going and being part of the day? 

    Just a thought here, but the one wedding I attended while I’ve been planning my wedding was the most fun I’ve ever had and I think it’s because I had a new perspective. I mean I could see the work, planning, meaning, ect. that went into everything. I enjoyed the wedding as a whole new level. You might find you have a similar experience since you are also planning your wedding! 

    Post # 9
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2005

    @californiabride2013:  I just wanted to say I agree with you. I hate that tit-for-tat wedding stuff. Drives me crazy. 

    Post # 10
    11379 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2012

    do you want to go?  do you have the time and money to go?  if yes, then go.

    is there are any reason besides distance that you don’t want to go?

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