(Closed) Coworker advice needed (and a little vent)…

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MsBlackberry:    Oh, that’s a bad one.  Been there!  I can tell you she’s probably feeling jealous and threatened by you.  The only thing I can advise is watch your back and kill her with kindness.  Good luck!

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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@MsBlackberry:   Who knows why she may be threatened – it doesn’t matter why.  Workplace rivalry is a pretty common thing.  She may have issues, but that part isn’t your problem.  The only thing you can do is be polite and friendly to her and behave in a professional manner.  If she continues badgering you, consider speaking with a supervisor or HR about it.

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MsBlackberry:   I know, it happened to me when I was younger, too.  And now I’m a supervisor so I don’t have to put up with that crap any more, lol.  I’ll just fire them.  🙂 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MsBlackberry:  Whenever people say things like “I seem to always get these jealous bitches trying to bring me down in the workplace! My last 2 jobs have had one of them (though they were both twice my age, rather than younger than me).” I always feel they are full of it. And chances are you have unknowingly done something to piss this girl off. Not every women in the world is going to be intimadated by you, thats just really conceited thinking that she just must be jealous and feel threatened by you. There’s a  reason this girl is well-liked, she’s a decent person and a good worker. Maybe you have been making mistakes and the one stuck fixing them is “natalie”? Also a supervisor telling you you’re catching on well and doing good, doesn’t mean you aren’t making mistakes and being perfect like you think you are. It just means you’re doing better then average with new trainees.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’d call her on it. Be polite, kill her with kindness, but call her out.

“I’m really sorry, but being new here I’ve just had a lot to learn in a small amount of time and I’m a little stressed out and maybe feeling overly sensitive – but did I do something wrong? Did I miss something? Is there something I need to work on? It’s just that I get the feeling you’re a little disappointed in me, and I’d really like your take on how I’m doing and I’d appreciate your input on how I can make improvements if I’m somehow lacking in a certain area.”

I’ve had to train numerous people in my job and I can tell you that it can be incredibly frustrating. Some people can complete my sentences when I’m explaining things, and some people cannot get the simplest of processes down (as in, they ask the exact same question over and over and over again). I’m not saying you’re one of those people who struggles, but I am saying that the training process in itself can just put me in a really bad mood. Maybe you’re doing everything really well, except for ONE thing? It wouldn’t hurt to ask, and I think by her answer you’d be able to suss out whether or not the reason is work-related or personal that she’s got her beady little eyes on you. If she has no answer to it and says that she’s satisfied with your work, then you know it’s personal. At which point I would start making a journal of things she says to you that you feel are attacking in nature…along with dates and times they occurred. Some people just automatically don’t like others….it doesn’t have to have anything to do with someone’s attractiveness or feeling threatened…sometimes it’s just a feeling. Maybe that’s all it is? But if you are beginning to feel targeted or bullied, then you need to document and report. I’d also reccommend posing your question via email…so it’s a documented response. This way if she says she’s fine with your work, then she bullies you and you report it, and she comes back with “it’s not personal, she wasn’t doing this”, you have it in her own writing that she has no qualms with you professionally and the job that you’re doing.

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