Post # 1
Just wanted to get some advice and see if anyone else has been in this situation. I have been working at my current job for a little over a year. I have gained about 20 pounds over that time. I don’t think I look bad, I could stand to loose a few pounds, but I am 5’8″ and weigh about 155. This woman I work with feels the need to comment on my weight Every. Single. Day. The kicker is she probably weighs about the same amount I do. We also wear scrubs, so it’s not like my weight gain is extremely noticeable. It’s just getting to the point where her comments are bothering me. If I eat anything in front of her, she says something. Today, I was talking to her about our job, and she interrupts me and says “Sorry I just can’t stop looking at your stomach. You’ve really put on weight.”. I told her it was none of her business and walked away. I really can’t believe someone could be so rude, or think it’s okay to say that to someone who is not your friend. I don’t even say anything to my friends about their weight, because it’s none of my business.
What would you do/say?
Post # 3
Wow, what a bitch.
Honestly, I would just give her the cold shoulder. Stop talking to her completely. If it doesn’t have anything to do with work like having to work together to complete a task, then don’t talk to her.
And if she still says something about your weight, then give her a taste of her own medicine. Say something like “Yeah well, you’re not exactly in any position to judge me considering your own body”.
It’s mean but effective.
Post # 4
I’d mentally punch her in the face for starters.
Some people are unbelievable. You are right it is absolutley none of her business. It is hardly ever ever appropriate to comment on someone’s weight.. especially in this context. Have you considered talking to HR about this? I know no one wants to be that person, but this is workplace bullying, and it’s mkaing you uncomfortable… you shouldn’t have to deal with it.
If your none of your business comment doesn’t work, I’d one more time try to firmly tell her that it’s innapropriate and none of her concern, then talk to HR.
I seriously can’t believe some people
Post # 5
Honestly, I’d just turn around and walk away. If she asked me why, I’d say “My time is too valuable to spend it dealing with catty *****iness”.
I wouldn’t speak to her at all. She can insult the wall if she feels so motivated.
Post # 6
Honestly I would be a bitch right back at her if she continues and say really wow you have put on weight too hmm quite a bit more than myself or something else as snarky.
Post # 7
@NK2012: i would talk to HR. That is sexual harrassment regardless of her orientation or her position in relation to yours and you could sue your company if they are aware of her comments and don’t put a stop to it.
Post # 8
WTF. How seriously rude. Also, we are almost the same height/weight so… *I* think I look FINE. Haters gonna hate.
Post # 9
@bkrocks13: +1 Ooooo good thought, I didn’t think of this!
Post # 10
@NK2012: Um, what? People speak that way? In a work setting? I would report her. Given you’ve already tried to tell her to mind her own business, that’s the only option left. Sure you could insult her back – tempting – but that won’t get you anywhere except breaking the code of conduct yourself.
Post # 11
@NK2012: I would tell her to stop making comments about my weight and/or body, and if she did it again after that I’d go to HR. And I’m not the type to run to HR with problems!
Post # 12
And that’s when I’d march my ass to HR and report her for harrasment, especially if this is recurring. Someone needs to put her in her place.
Post # 13
So rude. And it’s definitely at least borderline harrassment. I would tell her again one more time that comments about your weight are unwelcome, you would like her to stop, and if she doesn’t, you’ll be filing a complaint with HR.
Post # 14
I’d file a harassment complaint.
Post # 15
@NK2012: Just tell her you’re putting on weight to try and look like her 😉
Post # 16
I would consider going to HR. You are being harassed. I’m sure you look great (155 lbs at 5’8″ is healthy and gorgeous), but even if you WERE fat her remarks would still be completely unacceptable and unprofessional. No one deserves to be told that their FAT is so DISTRACTING that a person can’t even focus on the fact that they’re a GD human being and listen to what they’re saying. Ugh. I’m very offended on your behalf. How dehumanizing and awful. This girl deserves to be called out on it and disciplined accordingly.