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I work in a pretty small office and I'm just inviting everyone. There are only about 3 people who I think will come, but for ME, I'm not comfortable with just inviting a select few.
Ugh, it's SO hard when you work in a small office.
When you work in such a small office you almost have to invite them all. If you don't, then you may have to explain to the two people you don't like why you didn't/couldn't invite them. I think it will make your life the easiest by inviting them all. Maybe the ones you don't like won't come!
I still think you can get away with picking and choosing. It's a wedding, not a party. You know? You don't have to explain anything to them, if they're decent people they will understand and still congratulate you!
I agree, why do you have to invite people you do don't want there? I would invite those who I do want there and ask to be quiet about it, and if others do find out, you say that it was a small wedding and you could not invite everyone. Just because you work with someone you don't have to invite them, a wedding is a personal matter.
I am in a situation very similar to yours. I chose to invite everyone. While I don't dislike anyone I work with, there are a couple who I don't talk to very often. I'm friends with everyone else I work with and I just didn't want to leave two people out and make them feel bad.
I was in a situation similar to yours. We have a total of 10 employees and 7 of them I have worked with for almost 10 years the others I'm not close with, but ended up inviting them to the wedding because I felt bad also about not inviting some but others. It ended up that the ones I didn't know very well, didn't show up anyway, but at least I sent them out so noone got their feelings hurt.
I just started working in a fairly small lab (8 people, counting me) and I'm undecided as to what I'll do with coworker invitations. In your case, I think I would probably invite everyone and hope the two new people couldn't come. There's just no way to invite everyone but them without hurting any feelings, and word will spread FAST in an office that size, no matter what you do.
Well I don't understand why anyone who makes it a point to not talk to you would ever in a million years assume you'd invite them to your wedding. I think you can safely leave that person off the list. And if that's the one person in the office who doesn't get an invite then so be it. Maybe if that person was actually nice to you, they wouldn't be the odd man (or woman) out.
Thanks for all the feedback. I do agree that office politics make it hard to only invite some people, and I think that the right thing to do is probably to just invite everyone and hope (fingers crossed!) that the people I don't really know/don't like don't show up.
How about plus-ones? Two are married, one is engaged, two have significant others and one is single. It seems like I have just officially added 12 people to the guest list...
Seems like a lot of extra people! We did no office people...could cause unecessary work drama and we both just started our jobs. Have you hung out with anyone outside of work?? I would say if you do invite any that would be a good rule of thumb. Do you have room on guest list?
Seems like a lot of extra people! We did no office people...could cause unecessary work drama and we both just started our jobs. Have you hung out with anyone outside of work?? I would say if you do invite any that would be a good rule of thumb. Do you have room on guest list?
Seems like a lot of extra people! We did no office people...could cause unecessary work drama and we both just started our jobs. Have you hung out with anyone outside of work?? I would say if you do invite any that would be a good rule of thumb. Do you have room on guest list?
When people ask about inviting office coworkers, but general response is to ask themselves, "If I left the office today, would I still be friends and hang out with any of these people?" Usually, the answer is no, which probably means it's not worth it to invite them. Sometimes the answer is yes, so in that case, invite them because they're real friends, and ask them to keep it on the down-low. If anyone asks, just say, "Well, we've become really good friends outside work."
I work in a small office as well, and decided not to invite anyone. No one ever asked me about it, either, nor did anyone care that I'm aware of. If they did ask, I was prepared with the "we only invited close friends and family" speech.
The president of our company got married last year, too, and he definitely invited some people and not others. People were definitely miffed about it, and it kind of made for a weird/tense enviornment a few months after.
I would just avoid the postential awkwardness, and not invite any coworkers, unless you're actually friends with any of them outside work. Just my two cents! :)
Well are you inviting plus ones for your other guests? Also do any of your co-workers know any of your friends? If not, then you could probably get away without inviting plus ones. Do you know any of your co-workers SO's? If you have met them, it might seem kind of rude to invite one and not the other. Maybe just invite ones that are living together? So you don't have your single co-workers inviting random people to your wedding.
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So I got engaged the second week after I started the job I currently work at. At that time it was only myself, two full-time male coworkers, my boss, and a part-time female co-worker. I had decided that I would just invite them all because I really get along with my co-workers and, etiquette-wise, I probably should invite my boss.
Since then, we have hired two additional part-time workers. I get along with neither of them very well: the one makes a point of not talking to me and the other is a chatterbox so I try not to strike up long conversations with her. Now, I am almost at the point of having to hand out invites and I am completely stumped on how to handle who to invite. Should it be all or nothing? Can you really pick and choose in such a small office? I could invite everybody, even the people I don't really care for, because it would be the nice thing to do. Or I could just not invite anyone, even though that would mean not inviting people I want there and possibly offending my boss. I was careful not to give anyone STD cards or verbally indicate that anyone was invited, but I am thinking that they are thinking they are all invited. Ugh. Any help would be greatly appreciated.