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    coconutmellie    March 2010  

    So, I know we're still not even at Thanksgiving, but I can't help but be super excited to design and send Yule cards, since it'll be our first Yule together.

    I was talking to a coworker (she's from Europe) because I had sent her a link to minted.com, showing her the gorgeous designs. She has a 1 year old and she never shows pictures of him to anyone so I thought it would be cute for her to send out a card from her family.

    Well, she shot the idea down (ok, no biggie) because she was convinced that no one would care and it would just be more waste paper that people would feel obligated to keep around, because throwing a photo away is kind of crass.

    She is a ... realist/pessimist and pretty cynical, so I'm not surprised but I did start thinking about it that way. We have very few good friends, and not many close family members. There are plenty of extended family and such who might be interested, but now her reasoning pops in my head - would they care? Would I be bothering/annoying people with my Yule card with a big wedding photo on it?

    I want to because it would make ME happy to have a card sent from our new family, but I also don't want to be a nuisance. Maybe I could send them early and see if anyone sends one back?

     
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    brideatbeach    June 4, 2011  

    Personally, I have never known anyone but Scrooge to be offended or annoyed by a holiday card! To each her own if she doesn't want to send them out from her family, but I say go for it! My fiance and I spent part of our date night last night in Barnes & Noble picking out cute holiday cards to send to our families. 

     
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    jo.lee    September 10, 2011   Indianapolis

    The only thing that annoys me are when pretty distant relatives send like, a novel of how their year went. I love photo cards and newsletters can be fun, just not when they're ten pages :P.

    I think friends and family will love the photo cards if you decide to go with them! 

     
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    brideatbeach    June 4, 2011  

    @jo.lee: Yeah, the bragging letters about people you barely know are annoying. The classic picture and card is always good, though!

     
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    karatechick27    June 23, 2012  

    I don't mind gettiing cards at Christmas-time...but I don't send them...I'm poor and for me right now they're a waste of money.  I'm in school full time and have to save that money for better things.

     
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    rugulach    June 26, 2010  

    I love getting holiday cards in any case, esp. those with pictures. Even if we're not super close it's nice to know they were thinking of you.

    In this day and age, it's always nice to get snail mail that's not a bill. :-)

     
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    kitzy    June 2011  

    people love getting mail! why are you letting your coworker be such a downer for you?

     
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    coconutmellie    March 2010  

    @rugulach: and @kitzy: That's how I view things: I would love to get a card in the mail and know that I'm being thought of. My friend is just so very calculating, cold and rational that she makes anything sound ridiculous.

    We got married in March and no one has seen any professional photos from that day - would it be too much?

    Now her pessimism is infecting me! I'm sitting here thinking, "People want photo cards of babies - who wants a card with a couple of old farts on it? ;)"

     
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    Dragonsus    December 19, 2009   Lexington KY

    Sheesh!  It's just a card and a LOVELY thought from your new family to those you consider dear.  Don't let her sourpuss demeanor (it's not realism, it's just a nasty attitude) stifle you!.  I love receiving holiday cards and particularly if I couldn't be there on your big day I'd love to see some pics of it!

    Ok, there's my "Mary-Sunshine" two cents!

     
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    R.Elliott    September 24, 2011   Dallas, TX

    I'm sorry if this is a dumb question, but what is a Yule card?

     
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    MarzipanMrs.    June 2009   New Jersey

    I will echo the rest and say don't let your friend's nasty attitude prevent you from sending the cards with your picture!  I love getting Christmas cards and especially ones with pictures.  I have never heard of people being annoyed by cards or feeling put out by the pictures! Most people keep and display their cards throughout the season so pictures just make it better :) 

     
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    Ms. Caniche    September 18, 2010   Orange County, CA

    @coconutmelle:  Your friend wouldn't happen to be French?

    I just ordered our christmas cards last night!  I'm so excited to send them all out this year!  AND people love getting christmas cards!

     
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    coconutmellie    March 2010  

    @MarzipanMrs,@Ms. Caniche and@Dragonsus: Alright, I'll send them out then. ;)

    @R.Elliott: Not at all a stupid quesiton! My husband and I are pagan (nature based religion) and we celebrate the Winter Solstice on December 21st. It's often called Yule and the vast majority of the traditions, decorations, celebrations and fun stuff about Yule was incorporated into modern Christmas when Christians conquered the British Isles and Germany.

    So, it's like Christmas but with a different spiritual angle than Christ. ;)

     

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