Coworker/friend turned bitter and aggressive

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

If she is your friend, then you should be honest with her and tell her how you’re feeling. Maybe ask her what’s going on in her life because maybe something changed in her life and is taking it out on everyone else. You need to at least try to set her straight because if she’s talking smack about other co-workers, she more likely talking smack about you to others. I know a lot if people don’t like to confront others and be honest, they would rather take the easy way out and avoid the situation. But if you start distancing yourself from her without an explanation, then the way she’s acting right now, sounds like she’ll turn on you and start bad mouthing to others about you. And it’s your work place. The last place you want to have problems at. I hate drama at the work place. Adds on more stress than your actual work. Lol

Post # 4
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Slowly distance yourself. I had a friend/coworker go all passive aggressive on me and do the same thing pretty much. Luckily my coworker finally found a new job. It was a really shitty thing to go through… but I learned a valuable lesson about who I get close to at work!

Post # 5
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846 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Hmm. I’m gonna offer a more subtle approach. If you want to distance yourself but not confront her directly, the next time that she comes to you to strike up a conversation, say something like “Hey, I’m sorry, I can’t talk right now. I just have a mountain of paperwork to deal with.”

Then make your exit. Keep doing this until she stops coming to you. 

Post # 6
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

SInce she’s a friend, take her crazy and ask her why she doesn’t look elsewhere.  She’s obviously unhappy where she works and her job.  Maybe it’s time for her to move on somewhere that she’d be happier?

If she’s not a friend, or if you aren’t interested in staying friends, definitely distance yourself.  

Post # 7
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2696 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@LadyBlackheart:  that’s what I would do too! It doesn’t seem like be too direct with her would simmer her down, I think it would start a mini riot seeing that see is so angry.

Post # 9
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865 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Hmm, I can understand why she would be pissed off at the policy.

The option to work from home should be available to ALL employees, not just those with children.  It does smack of favouritism. 

The way she’s going about expressing it is completely wrong though.  She shouldn’t be constantly mentioning it to you.   I’d advise her to raise her complaint at the policy with HR if she is that bothered by it.  

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